what is the best way to rid yourself of emotions?

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02 Jul 2011, 6:19 pm

I have trouble expressing them anyways so I kind of want them to just not exist. any recommendations?



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02 Jul 2011, 6:23 pm

I have a lot of trouble expressing my emotions too. :( I don't think there is a way to completely get rid of your emotions because everyone has emotions.



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02 Jul 2011, 6:29 pm

Brain injury.



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02 Jul 2011, 6:30 pm

I know everyone has them its just frusterating that they have such an effect and i cannot even express them in any rational way. I feel like an immature child any time my emotions get a little out of my control....and no one really cares that much about how I feel anyways.



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02 Jul 2011, 7:01 pm

I don't really understand for sure how I do it, but I will try my best to explain. Emotions are a part of life; nobody is immune to them (although some of us are way more emotional than others by nature). Everyone has emotions, but they should to be set aside (you probably realize this now). In order to do that, emotions must be understood first. You need to explore and confront your emotions, and then, only then, will you be free from their control. But if you ignore your emotions without understanding them, that only makes the situation worse.


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02 Jul 2011, 7:03 pm

Emotions are a bit like puzzles, they hang around until you learn to solve them. Puzzles that bug you and you can't put down.


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02 Jul 2011, 7:05 pm

The people who tend to be least emotional are Schizoids so perhaps having a Schizoid lifestyle would help you be less emotional. Become an extreme loner & avoid others whenever you can


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02 Jul 2011, 7:07 pm

nick007 wrote:
The people who tend to be least emotional are Schizoids so perhaps having a Schizoid lifestyle would help you be less emotional. Become an extreme loner & avoid others whenever you can


It might be possible to induce a kind of anhedonia by avoiding anything that causes you to feel an emotion ever. But I don't recommend it.


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02 Jul 2011, 7:11 pm

I sometimes feel the same, but don't know of any way to stop them short of dying or, as Verdandi stated, brain injury. Not very good options, unfortunately.

I have had limited success with mindfulness meditation when I begin to feel overwhelmed by negative emotions. It may be worth looking into. There are countless books and tons of information available online. It's not complicated, although keeping your mind quiet for any length of time can be challenging. Like anything else, it takes practice.

If you're interested, here's a link to some simple instructions:
Mindfulness Meditation



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02 Jul 2011, 7:11 pm

I posted a link to a study in another thread that discussed how a lack of emotion severely interfered with decision making. Eliminating all emotions is a bad idea. Trying to understand them is more useful and more likely to work.



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02 Jul 2011, 7:13 pm

sixis wrote:
I sometimes feel the same, but don't know of any way to stop them short of dying or, as Verdandi stated, brain injury. Not very good options, unfortunately.

I have had limited success with mindfulness meditation when I begin to feel overwhelmed by negative emotions. It may be worth looking into. There are countless books and tons of information available online. It's not complicated, although keeping your mind quiet for any length of time can be challenging. Like anything else, it takes practice.

If you're interested, here's a link to some simple instructions:
Mindfulness Meditation


I meditate. I wouldn't call the success I'd had with it limited, but I suppose that, technically, it isn't unlimited.

Anyway, meditation yeah: helps with working out all kinds of puzzles.


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02 Jul 2011, 7:38 pm

I also recommed meditation. I struggle with having the discipline for meditation to develop in to part of my daily routine, but the stillness I feel after having meditated is pleasant.


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02 Jul 2011, 8:12 pm

As I figured, you all explained it way better than I did. I was also going to mention that when I sit down in a quiet room and relax, I can almost feel no emotion, but I suppose that counts as meditation.


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02 Jul 2011, 8:15 pm

Whenever I have too much emotion it all culminates into me crying and gets outs of my system... I also sit and analyze why and what of my emotions... Sometimes I just cry watching a sad movie and let it get out of my system... Lol I sound so pathetic but it works for me..



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02 Jul 2011, 8:15 pm

To relieve myself of unwanted emotional activity, I do something physically strenuous, like plant a garden, paint a room, or ride my bicycle to the mountains and back (~60-70 miles). Then I shower and go to bed. The next morning, I still remember what upset me, but the emotional burden is mostly gone.


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02 Jul 2011, 8:21 pm

I honestly think that you can learn to work with your emotions.

In Tibetan Buddhism, through tantric practice you can learn to use the energy of your emotions and direct it rationally rather than be a victim of your ever-changing, conflicting, confusing emotional-mental state.

It's hard-core and available. Maybe check it out?

The ironic thing is that if you want to have mastery over your emotions you need to learn to sit with them. They change all the time, it's the thoughts that go with the emotions that is the killer--believing your thoughts and getting stuck in them, thereby freezing your emotions in time in your body.

Plus, you are probably exquisitely sensitive if you are autistic and that presents another layer of challenge. Still, the Tibetans have developed a method over 4 millenia.


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