I actually LIKE people!

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Is this an indication that I probably don't have any form of autism? Almost everyone here dislikes NTs. Also, I'm not interesting in meeting other aspies in real life, I mean, if I met someone, who I got along with well, that had AS, I would certainly want to be their friend. But I wouldn't go out of my way to make friends with aspies and I am certainly not closed to making friends with NTs. I tend to get "click" extremely well with about 10% of people, get along pretty well with 65% of people, think about 15% of people are "just OK", dislike 8% of people, and strongly dislike 2% of people.

Why could this be? And why do so many people here hate NTs?

they don't go out of their way to dislike NT's, they're just misantropes, you might have seen the poll asking aspies if they were misantropes and most said yes, which is depressing.

I don't, I like people as a whole.

I generally like people. I just don't always relate to them very well.

I love people. Doesn't change my autism.

Many have had very bad experiences with being bullied, ostracized and/or just plain mistreated by others, most of whom were/are NT's.

I get along better with people than I used to, and tend to take people on an individual basis. If someone is nice they're nice; if someone is a jerk they're a jerk. I don't really think it's an AS/NT thing.

Lately, I've been interacting with more people on a daily basis due to my current job (retail/customer service). That's actually had the effect of making me feel MORE connected with others, rather than wanting to run like hell. Although, after a full 8 hours of this (one hour for lunch), I want to just go home and crawl under my bed--I feel emotionally drained.

This. Don't really relate to others who have acted hostile towards me in the past (and I never did anything to them to deserve insults).

No, there are people I do like, usually because they have the following traits:
-Friendly, acts nice and non-threatening.
-Not too loud or opinionated during conversations. Controls their voice volume...
-Good listener, even when I talk their ear off (I usually say sorry now if that happens)
-Doesn't mind if I don't look straight at them all the time.
-Easy to talk to.
-Doesn't freak out when I have a meltdown.
-Likes going to the same places I do
-Doesn't need a crowd of other people with them.
...Of course there aren't many people like that, and I'm lucky I even get to see them most of the time since they're just TOO busy and I get the stupid answering machine whenever I call and for some reason don't call back until several days later. And then I feel isolated and alone and like I have no one I can really talk to.
But if I met another person with AS who was just like me they'd probably drive me nuts and I'd never be able to get along with them.

I don't hate NTs. I've learned to get along with them pretty well.

I think people experiencing socially stressful/alienating circumstances are more inclined to have the need to post in online forums (like WP) than socially successful Aspies who can rely on their personal friends for their interactive needs. Therefore, I suspect the demographic of Aspies here tend to be more bitter than is perhaps representative of the entire Aspie population, and their attitude toward NTs. (I don't hold this against the forum itself. I just see that as sociologically inevitable.)

Keep liking people. It doesn't mean you don't have AS so please don't feel you need to join in the bitterness to belong here!

I think I get frustrated because I am the one that has to change and adapt myself to how the world thinks and does things. Sometimes it seems like there is a thousand million rules that everyone kind of lives by and I supposed to do it that way too. But, I don't dislike, hate, or wish ill of anyone.

Most NTs hate me, even when I'm trying to be nice.

I guess I'm not trying hard enough for them even when I'm working my butt off.

I don't hate NTs... I generally start out by liking people it depends on what kind of relation they build with me that my feelings for them grow or don't or go negative. But generally i don't hate anyone and don't hate NTs.. I sure don't like bullies though.

I like unusual people.....I have a very hard time getting along with normal people. I do not hate all NT's, I just dislike the sheep mentality of so many people and it happens NT's seem to be the quickest to go along with it not all of them but a lot. This is also because I imagine there are more people without serious mental conditions then people with them so yeah its nothing against all NT's I just have an issue with this society.

I like people that give me money. ^_^

I try to like people, but sometimes it can be rather difficult.

Some people with ASDs are very bitter. But usually they don't dislike people, they just don't understand them. I would say that I enjoy people, but only in small doses.

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