Sympatico NT

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Hello, beloved aspies!

I ran across your site wanting to know more about AS, as I am working with an aspie and want to understand him better. Thought I’d put in my 2 cents worth too. I guess I am what you would call an NT, though maybe it’s just because I’ve managed to avoid any psychiatric evaluation for the last 25 years (I’m 42.) Before that my diagnosis was mild bipolar “disorder.” I am living med-free and see my passionate personality as a gift.

It always makes me perk up my ears when I hear people of a misunderstood group radicalizing themselves and pushing away people of the dominant “normal” group as some sort of enemy. Mostly because I’ve done it a lot myself, for my own self-protection. Over the years I’ve come to realize that I am a bridge, or go-between, with the task of mending places of misunderstanding. So, to that end, I would like to tell you how this NT feels about this crazy world…

I often self-evaluate after social interactions and feel like I’ve screwed up somehow. Sometimes it takes all I’ve got to feel OK about it.

I cherish my time alone and need lots of it. It’s where my mind gets to run free and explore the deepest parts of my imagination. I don’t know how a person could possibly be in constant social contact and retain their sanity – or the kind of sanity I would want.

I love, love, LOVE sci-fi and adventure. Esp. Star Wars (yes, even the new ones), X Men, the Matrix, Kill Bill, Fight Club, V for Vendetta - anything that talks about the incredible beings we are inside, under this compromised exterior.

I work in a computer lab, too!

I can’t read other people’s minds. I get myself in trouble all the time, especially with women (and I am female myself.)

I often don’t get sarcasm. I used to, “but I was so much older then - I’m younger than that now.” (- Bob Dylan) I don’t think sarcasm and cynicism are anything to aspire to.

I think romance is overrated, particularly when you wind up giving all of your energy away to a person, or to an idea of a person. My True Love will not need this from me. And I’m happy to be with myself until I find her/him.

I think the artificiality our society expects you/us to buy into is ill as hell. I wish we were more honest. We’re just scared. Fear has really had us in its grip. But Love is ultimately stronger.

I salute you all for your honesty, your realness, your imagination and your willingness to be yourselves. Love yourselves.

Kudos to the writers and poets and artists. I haven’t had much time to look at it all, but so far my fave is “The Wall.”

Peace,
A sympatico NT

Hi Vita, I'm Mark. I sure am glad to see you and your point of view here. There's a lot of negativity and pessimism around here sometimes, a lot of unhappy young people. I and some others try to do what we can to help them understand that it's not always going to be like this. Also, the more time I spend here, the more similarities I see between Aspies and NTs. Aspies aren't so different, we just see things differently. Ah well, we all like to feel special. Anyway, like I said, I'm glad you're here and I hope to see you often.

Hi

Thanks for that
I only learned I was an 'Aspie' last month so I'm still a little wary of the whole AS v NT
concept. After all there are lots of NTs who have bipolar,post traumatic stress etc
who have their own challenges to overcome. I'm more inclined not to jump to
conclusions about anyone now as we never really know what they might be going through.

Still,it's great to have places like this community to share AS experiences in particular
and try to help each other along

Thank you. Maybe we not all so totally different from eachother after all. I relate to what you said about social contact especially.

I dont know if I am AS,only that I share many traits...but I do know why I have built walls...because I have spent a lifetime(42) being told that my very essence,thoughts,behavior,likes and physical experiences were "wrong"....I often feel like I am in a prisoner of war camp with the enemy tring to brainwash me out of my own "reality"(psycologically speaking of course)Maybe it was in "my best interest"but at what cost?

I dont really care if someone is DX NT or AS....if they try and negate my experience and deny my reality...they are the enemy...


And ther isnt one aspie here who can speak for all aspies....many have had more challenges,have more extream sensory problems and learning problems then others....We dont all want to "feel" special...we ARE all special and unique....so,someone can say....NT's experience some of the same issues...uhm,OK....there is no such thing as AS then?And if I sprain my ankle am I experiencing the same thing as someone who had their legs amputated or someone who can fly(hypothetical...because some here can fly "mentally")....we are the same because we all can find away to move ourselves from place to place...pretty big difference in what kind of tools we may need to do so effectively or what it feels like to travel.