Anxiety asking for orders at restaurants?

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Does anyone else have this? I always feel anxious when having to order something at a restaurant, or any eating place. McDonald's is one example. It's normally noisy in there, there's never any queue really, just a bunch of people pratically gathered near the order bit, and I've got to keep my eyes peeled for someone to yell, ''can I help?'' Because I'm quite deaf, I've got to really concentrate because people are so impatient in fast food restaurants, whether they're customers or workers, so often if I miss a worker yell, ''can I help?'', other people behind me get snappy with me and tell me to come on, or the worker yells, ''CAN I HELP???'' even louder and I just feel stupid after.

Then when I order, I always get tongue-tied, no matter how much I practice before going in. I always babble, like, ''uh...er....um...ca-can I have a...erm....plain cheese-burger, and....and....um....chips....and a small coke and....and....erm....a mcflurry, please?'' And I don't say it like some people who are indecisive might, I say it in a nervous way, like I'm trying to blurt it all out in a rush rather than take my time asking. I seem to get more nervous when I'm ordering from a woman than I do a man (don't know why). Then they usually ask for the money before they give me my order, and I give them the money, which makes me anxious too because I always forget what it comes too (since I usually slightly alter my order each time), and then after I get my order I forget that I have paid and I stand there waiting to be asked for the money.

Also in other restaurants I get anxious too, like when I go for an Indian meal or a Chinese meal with my family and there's a lot of us around a big table, I hate ordering then. I sit there getting butterflies in my tummy and going all sweaty, and constantly reading out in my mind what I am ordering from the menu, but I still have trouble verbalising it when he asks me for my order (and no, I do not have speech delays otherwise). And I always get embarrassed saying my order, especially when the waiter is standing right at the other end of the table and I've got to kind of shout across. My voice tends to go all funny, and I feel that people like my brother laughs at me. But if I get someone else to order, I then feel I am patronizing myself, and then people like my brother criticises and says, ''haven't you got a tongue in your head?''

Does anyone else have these anxieties when ordering food in restaurants?

Being a girl with a guys name sounds more embarrassing.

That's no more her name than you look like your avatar.
Eat fish from a bucket, much?

I'm the world's cutest animal.

Sometimes I can't even talk so I just point at the menu.

I'm the world's qutest animal.

I don't like to order things with ridiculous names like Rooty Tooty Fresh N Frooty at IHOP. I like it when someone else orders my food for me at McDonald's, yum yum yum. I want Chicken McNuggets with Sweet N Sour Sauce, pleeez.

I do get anxious quite often and then I mispronounce the order or mix something up, so I end up pointing at the menu either way. Usually I speak too softly as well, so I need to repeat myself once or twice. Sometimes I ask my friends to order for me.
I'm less anxious if I'm at a usual place. And by usual I mean that I've been going there for lunch for two years now.

I have a lot of dietary restrictions, so if I don't make sure to explain everything, I might end up with a dish that they'd have to toss out and redo... which would make me feel 10x worse than the awkward situation of a crowd staring at me as I order. Though also due to the dietary restrictions, I get an extra burden put on me because I never know if the person ordering will actually remember them, or if the chef will actually prepare it right, not to mention the risk that I might be perceived as pretentious or picky because of my requests, possibly resulting in backlash (such as spit in my salad or something. Never know.) There are a lot of people out there with irrational hostility towards my lifestyle, even though I've never preached about it or pushed others to do it. But sometimes people get one bad experience with a certain type of person (or worse, only ever hear rumors), and they will assume everyone of that type is that way. Thus in addition to the stress, I have to be extra polite, be an excellent tipper, and pretty much try to be the perfect patron. So... yeah. Restaurants can definitely be bad. But it's not so hard when it's just the one waiter/waitress that I interact with... it's easier to make a good impression on just one person. I don't tend to go to places like McDonald's that have a team staring you down in the middle of a big room, asking you what you came here for... *Shudder*

Also, some people assume that a drive-through would be easier... Not for me. Sure, I don't have to look somebody in the eye, and I can pretend I'm in a hurry to avoid smalltalk, but now I have to talk through what is essentially a giant telephone, hoping that the person on the other end hears everything all right. Then when you get the bag, you either have to trust that what they gave you was correct, or sit there and take everything out of it before driving off... resulting in people behind you honking for you to get out of their way...

Yea, it usually takes about 30 seconds after they ask what I want before I manae to respond. Fortunately, I go to the same restaraunts all the time, and get the same stuff always, so they normally dont even ask what I want anymore.

I hate having to ask for pretty much anything, so yes ordering food isn't fun. I speak too softly and end up having to repeat myself or point to the menu. Then comes all the questions about what you want with it, etc, and worrying whether they will put mayoniaise or something equally hideous (to me) on it.