Ever Just Have No Clue What To Say??

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This seems to happen to me alot. When I'm in a group of people, people I like, I listen to what they are saying and I always want to join in and talk with them but I just flat out don't know what to say. They will talk about boys or celebritys or school and I want to join in and talk with them I just can never figure out what to say. And when I do say some thing its usally weird. And then after an hour or two of trying to listen to what there saying and trying to think of ways to join in I go off and do my own thing. Does any one else out there do this??

Yep. It's one of the most common AS traits.

<-----convicted

All. The. Time.

absolutely.. and if I do find something somewhat appropriate to say, by the time I think of it, the subject has changed..

dont you hate that!! I do that all the time.
My best one is when I will have an inner diaglog going on in my head while I am listening to the conversation and then I just blurt out what I am thinking....which has nothing to do with the conversation which totally throws everyone for a loop.

My sister says that I am random.

It all makes sense to me...but trying to explain how I came to say what I said gets even more convulited.

example

They are talking about somebody they know bought a houseboat
they go on to talk about how much it costs and where they been and they mention them seeinmg dolfins swimming along side of the boat
then I start thinking about dolfins which lead me to think how dolfins can kill a shark and often been know to protect people from sharks
then my mind goes to this episode on Animal Planet where these group of wild dolfins surounded these swimmers for hours flapping their fins to keep them in the circle and the people were terrified and did not know they were being protected from 2 great white sharks. well one of them got lose from the dolfin circle and found the sharks and then got back in the circle and was much calmer. a few hours of treading water passed and then the dolfins left because the sharks left.
At this point they are discussing which weed killer works best
and then I say that did you know that wild dolfins have been known to protect humans from shark attacks....I saw it on Animal Planet.
They all look at me with disbelief....what does that remotely have to do with weed killer?
I just say I dunno.
You are so random Jojo

Yes, as well as not knowing when to say something.

All the above.

All the time... even with my closest friends...

Its so weird... you have an understanding in your head of how a conversation should be and how it should work and how easy it should be to make your thoughts understandable and whatnot...

But when it comes to the real deal its like... even if you had organized your thoughts into words beforehand...

Including ^^this^^

Aaaaall the time

Yes. I am often thinking in my head what to say and by the time I know what I should say, it's too late because the discussion has moved on.

Yes this happens a lot. It's strange considering how much internal chatter I have that I really have very little to say to other people. As a consequence I appear slow or stupid or shy. Or all three.

< guilty too.

I actually have often gotten an evil glare or a reprimand when trying to get an idea or opinion I feel very strongly about (or a correction of an error) into the conversation before it changes topic and leaves my insight to die miserably in the sands of the past...

People flit from topic to topic too fast without waiting for others to offer input before moving on. It's aggravating.

And usually if I don't get my idea in, I lose interest in the conversation because I'm still musing on my insight/idea/opinion/correct data.

I just shut up until somebody asks me a question. Problem solved

Guilty. Assuming I can come out of my own world to actually listen to their conversation.