What have your friendships been like?

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Im just trying to make comparisons.. and see how similar my experience is to people who have been diagnosed with aspergers..

I've had several close friendships.. each of them with one person at a time.. and tend to be very clingy (dont want to do much without that friend).. Ive had about 3 close friendships with people and I still consider them my friend (even though communication is only on the interenet now.. maybe once or twice a year) In these friendships it seems theres some common topic of interest (ex. math, music... ) though Im the only one who takes it to the extreme. There is an absolute openness and honesty in these relationships

With people in general i just dont talk unless absolutely necessary (because people dont seem to respond to what I have to say.. They think Im silly or weird). In places like work I dont really develop friendships but for some reason people are always sharing their deepest darkest secrets with me. I hear "I dont know you very well.. but I know that I can trust you for some reason".

How similar/different are your interactions with other people?

I've always had close friendships with 2 or 3 people.

I have 2/3 close friends that I spend alot of time with, i'm very clingy with these people. After a few years I tend to move on to a new group and give these new people ALL my attention.

I have friends sometimes. I have people I call friends, but for the most part they are more like acquaintances--people you know well enough to say hello to and talk to, but don't actually seek out contact with.

Last time I had a friend was about three years ago, but he moved away. Five years before that I was part of a four-person group and we were very close to each other. Before that I was friends with one girl for about a year. And before that I didn't have any friends at all.

I usually socialize with a friend of this sort about once or twice a month.

i've had a few people who tell me they are my friends, but i don't feel anything but respect for them. I see them when i go to places, but we never go anywhere together.

*sigh* There's a complicated place called a small town high school where you don't really relate to people.

I'll put it this way:
I've usually had about zero to one friend at a time.
I've had the same one now since grade 10. A few girlfriends in that time too.
Any friend I've ever had was set up by parents or teachers.
The girls I've been with have approached me at work - preferring me to the quack guy who was always hitting on them, I assume. After all, I'm the "safe smart quiet guy" in the corner, right?
This was the case with two of them.
One of them was a housemate, and I suppose I was convenient and no pressure there too.
The last one I met online. In a MMORPG (video game).

None of them lasted too long. I think I've realized why, but that's a discussion for another place.

I tend to change friends after a while because people begin to annoy or bore me, or get too clingy and demanding.

In school I had around 2-5 friends at a time, often including at least 1 weird person, and now have 3 or 4 friends. For some reason, the girls I end up being friends with make arguments over nothing, dump me as friends, then talk to me a few days/months later. My mum keeps asking questions about my friends, which I find annoying and ignore. My friends share barely any of my interests, which doesn't bother me as I have family for that, and sometimes my friends try to pressure me to go out several times a week, despite having several other friends that could act as substitutes.

Also, if people you don't know well trust you with secrets, I'd guess it's because they've noticed you haven't gossiped about anyone.

My friendships are very similar. I tend to cling to one person like a lifesaver. Actually that person IS my lifesaver in social situations. I tend to form a very strong connection with that friend and I'm very loyal. I find it much easier to adapt and to "infiltrate the world of NT's" if I have such a friend.
I can't keep more than one active friendship at the time. It requires too much energy. I do have some acquaintances. The number of those varies and they change more often. But I wouldn't call those people my friends. Usually they are the friends of that one friend of mine.



That happened to me a couple of times as well. People sharing their secrets with me. I think that maybe I seem trustworthy because I never gossip or talk about others.

I've had a few groups of 'friends', but after a while people tend to become mean or passive. In fact, I had a group of my 'friends' begin to sort of gang up on me recently on Facebook and collectively have a go at me because our plans to meet up during our summer holiday so far have fallen apart, and I was lightly poking fun at the fact that their attempts have failed... I'm still utterly bamboozled as to why they all felt so angry towards me!

I had a very close friend in high school, an NT. We did just about everything together and were both equal mixtures of religious sincerity, high intelligence and extreme weirdness. We still get along, but we don't see each other often since we're in distant states.

The pattern makes sense where you have an open and honest relationship, or none at all; everything in-between is social.

I have never had more than one friend at a time, and it wouldn't work any other way as I tend to give all my attention to a single person and am unable to focus, seemingly, on more than that.

I think I hung around with two when younger, but they kept swinging over to bullying me, siding with a girl who got together a sort of team to bully me at the school.

I struggle to maintain friendships, as I find it incredibly difficult, the give and take of talking. I tend to find I can only talk about whatever is obsessing me at that particular time, and it feels forced and draining for me to talk about anything else. Obviously, people get fed up of this and move on, or I myself just drift away.

I have always seemed to only end up friends with those who are unusual themselves, or at least who have a shared interest.
Most people confuse me and seem to come from another planet, so I keep a wide berth of them.

I have a close relationship with 3 people, one of them is living far way.
I do not only see them as people who I can spend good times with, but also as reliable people whenever I am in good or bad moments. They are true friends. True friends stay for life and not for a period of time.
I know I can trust them because I know that I can tell them everything and vice-versa and they will still see me as a conscious individual.

I think that the most important aspects in friendship are trust and avoidance of judgement of how we look, what we eat, etc...
True friends will bring you an environment of joy in good moments and an environment of compassion and comfort when you feel resentment, sadness, depression, anger and hatred.
I know that I am not alone because I am aware that there are people out there that would feel good if they knew they were about to meet someone like me.

It is obvious that we cannot get along with everyone. The level of compatibility, consciousness and mentality of each individual will either trigger or not the feeling of closeness, intimacy, comfort and trust.
If you do not feel closeness for someone, something is terribly wrong and thus you know that it is time to move on to a better, soulful relationship.

Individuals are either my friends or not. There is no middle between a person whom you don't share any emotions and a person whom you are emotionally connected.

And that is the key to a truthful relationship.

Many of my friends in elementary school only took advantage of me. I don't even have any friends in school anymore, but if I did, I'm sure it'd be the same way.

I only have 3 good friends from childhood myself. I don`t want a lot!