Casual friendships.

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I don't think I seem *majorly* weird to people who don't know me very well. I make new friends REALLY easily, actually.

But if the relationship is like the kind of relationship that you would have with an acquaintance, but is ONGOING, i just don't get it. I think is the reason I don't have long-term friendships. I mean OBVIOUSLY it is, but I just don't get it.

I don't do anything that's specifically CREEPY when I'm close with someone or anything like that lol.

I guess I'm not very good at keeping close friendships if the person isn't my BEST friend or SO. And when these don't work out, I'm left with nothing. Do most people just keep these CASUAL friends, for years? It seems impossible.

It's very all or nothing, I can't have many casual friendships.

IT SUCKS AND I HATE IT.

What about you?

lol.

Sounds like you have a ton of acquaintances that come and go and very very few friends. Its probably hard for you to bring someone into friendship. I dont know about other aspies, Im not good at making and keeping acquaintances. People who I get along with very well as an acquintance, I will make an effort to bring them into friendship. Most acquaintances that just stay at that level eventually stop talking to me because Im so bad at maintaining people at that level. Its really an all or nothing with me. So people probably think Im a snob because Im appearingly very selective with my friends. Im really not. I just suck majorly, I get very socially anxious with acquaintances. I cant spontaneously interact with a person unless their a friend or there very non-intimidating.