Would you say your parents were lazy in raising you?

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That would be an emphatic yes from me.

Yes because of all the energy they spent arguing with each other.

I'd say no, actually.

Not lazy, but certainly not the kind of helicopter parent I am. They were perfectly content to let me go explore, sometimes for days on end, without food, change of clothes or bathing. If I came home with scurvy or whooping cough, it was all just good fun.

I think maybe it was a different philosophy back then ... if you survived childhood, then you were set for life. But they were good parents and oddly seem far more interested in me as an adult than as a kid. Go figure.

No, definitely not.

Lazy, neglectful, abusive.

It drives me nuts that I'm still dependant upon them.

My father (legal, not biological) was lazy, abusive, and neglectful. He was against me getting academic help or psychological evaluations even though it was blatantly obvious I had tons of trouble in school. It was so much easier to yell at me for not "buckling down" and "trying hard enough" and flipping out at me when he was talking to me because I avoided making eye contact. Also, accusing me of lying whenever I said anything he didn't agree with.

My mother was not lazy or abusive, and she wasn't neglectful in terms of insuring that all of us were fed and clothed, but I would say she was neglectful in getting me the help I could get, and she joined in on the emotional abuse at times (and denies it now). Not to say she had it much better than I did - she came out of the relationship with severe PTSD with alexithymia.

One of them was. My father is a lazy, neglectful jerk.

No. None of them were. Thought my mom did more of the punishments and made the rules and enforced them if they were broken and she paid more attention while my dad be too busy working and zone everything out. So my mom got baby sitters when she leave and she had a nanny for two months whom she fired. Then after that she got baby sitters.

Not lazy, but they kind off let us do whatever we wanted. A laissez-faire sort of thing, never too invasive or overly interested... I quite liked it, but my mom now feels terribly guilty about being a somewhat absent mom.

Not at all. Naive, misguided at times maybe, but not even a little lazy.

They weren't really lazy. They worked a lot. My grandmother raised my brothers and I mostly.

No. Misguided is a better description.

Hell yes.

Yes. They gave up and fed us prozac, ritalin and nicktoons.

Under educated but not lazy.