Giving and getting gifts

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Gifts drive me crazy. I never understood them. Does anyone else feel this way?

LOL, I guess it is just me and Sheldon Cooper.

And Me makes three. I love Christmas for the lights and food but Hate the gift part and forget birthdays

You're not alone -- I get stressed out trying to find something I think the person would like. Even if they have a specific hobby or interest that should make it easy to pick something for them, I worry if they already have what I'm getting them, because if they're that into it they probably bought themselves everything already, surely? These are the things I worry about.

People say it's the thought that counts even if the gift itself isn't what they really want -- but isn't the whole point to get them something they would really like to have?

I also have a huge, weird inability to shop for several people's gifts in one shopping session. I can't go around a store thinking "I'm needing something for Amy, something for Mike, something for ---" etc and then just see suitable things that suggest the right person on my list. I have to look at things with only one person in mind, or I get so I can't see the suitability of any item for anyone -- it's like a blind spot. My brain can't seem to keep multiple recipients in mind when I'm looking for gifts.

I actually have to restrain myself from buying gifts for people since I really love to do it, and often go over-budget.

My daughter, however, really struggles with choosing gifts for other people, although she likes it when I give her things. One of the most fun things ever is to take her clothes shopping on my dime. But like I said, I have to watch myself.

Any gift I get at my advanced age is a bit of a problem. It's nice to be thought of, but we just have too damn much stuff. No room to put any more. I kind of favor perishables, for this reason.

Big smile, thank you for the wonderful gifts

I get it when it's a surprise, like you're trying to do something nice for someone or make them happy. I don't really get it when people do something like exchange gifts with a certain spending limit where everyone gives out and receives the same amount, usually for stuff that's not needed in the first place.

I guess it's just fun for people.

I don't really get it either. My parents don't care much about giving gifts & they mostly do it cuz they feel they have too sense others give to them. I liked getting gifts as a kid but I never really knew what to get people so I let my parents give gifts for the rest of the family & I'd go along with my mom getting a gift for dad & I'd go along with dad in getting gifts for mom. Nowadays most anything I'd want I'd have to get myself & my parents know I don't have much money so they tell me not to give them gifts but they do give me money which I really appropriate.

Many of the older women that I am / have been in a romantic relationship with tend to give me gifts, more so those that are in their 40's to 50's. Over the years I've learned to just accept these gifts and roll with it. I've tried making it clear that I am in a relationship with them because I'm sincerely attracted to them, but they never really listen to me. I suppose it doesn't help my case that the type of older women I'm into tend to be the the strong independent and powerful types.

Gift means 'poison' in German. 'Nuff said.

I LOVE to give gifts to people! I put alot of thought into what they'd need / like. It DOES smart, a bit, if I get it wrong----but, what's WORSE is if they don't tell me; I would GLADLY take it back and get them something else, cuz the whole point is to get them something they WANT.

I've spent a while trying to find gifts for my family members something the will like but then the say I give rubbish gifts.... i now ask people what they want but they dont always tell me or they give me an idea but doesnt help. I used to spend a lot on each person but it seems even if i bouht something expensive they dont like it. I'd never say that to someone else, I would be glad they gave me a gift.