Why is having one goal such a crime?

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Why does it make people so mad becuase if I can't be a vet, I see no point in life? Aparently this is an example of the "rigidity" you read about in AS books and it is always protrayed as a bad thing. Without this "rigidity" I would not have been able to anything. One person's "rigidty" is another person's drive or detirmation. What is so wrong with just wanting to be a full fledged DVM and not wanting to be a vet tech or zoo keeper if being a vet dosen't work out such a bad thing? Perhaps I will fail in my goal, but why can't I be allowed to fail? I really just wish people would leave me alone and respect my wish to use all my energy to be a vet and just focus on that. I'm not one of those people who can focus on one goal at a time. My goal. Not anyone else's goal for me. I must have my own goal. Why does everyone want to prevent me from acheving my own goal?

Personaly, I'd rather be hit in the face with a brick than even consider becoming a vet tech becuase as young as third grade I was told by my mother, because of my poor math skills, becoming a real vet would be impossible or at least "very hard". Naturaly, I lost all modivation and ALL of my grades got low. I even asked my mom why she didn't believe in me and she replied becuase she "didn't want to set me up for disapointment". I started to cut myself and self harm to release the feelings I couldn't vocalize and when I started to pull my hair out and tried to kill myself, my mother got the message that even if she didn't think I could make it, she better at least pretend to believe in me.

They shouldn't. You are fortunate that you have a career goal from the start that you are sticking to. Not many people are that lucky to come up with an idea or definite plan for their future. Although it never hurts to have some backup plans in case it doesn't work out or you go into it and find it's not fitting for you.

I dunno, but don't give up!

It is the BLACK/WHITE thing that we Aspies have as nature. It really is not a good thing to have. If you wanna be succesful in this world, you have to learn to see colors a bit. There are a LOT of exercises and things you can do (CBT wise) to help you get out of black/white thinking. If you have a shrink, talk to them about it.

I might have missed something, but why can't you be a vet?

Apparently because I have problems in math. I had a few issues as a kid but my parents would pound on me about it and the "self-fulfullinh prophesy" happened. I took an algebra course because I wanted to do an expirment becuase things I find hard are easy to other people and things I find easy are hard to others. Most people say algebra is impossible, and most people say fractions are impossible as well and I did super well on them. I used a visual, hand's on appoach course from India and flew threw not only fractions, but algebra as well. My problems in math were problems in memorizing the times tables and other such things that had to be memorised. My parents let me use a calcuator for that part. I think I have dyscalculia becuase I can't memorise the times tables to save my life and ALWAYS get my numbers mixed up. Algebra is 90% logic.

I had some trouble memorizing the times table too but eventually I did. Before I memorized it I used a small card board cut out of a times table I'd peek at.

I just can't memoizise it no matter how hard I try.

yeah, I wasn't saying you don't try or anything like that.

I didn't think you were but other people might.

Screw the times table. Find a different way to multiply numbers.

How about this one

http://gizmodo.com/5713010/this-bewildering-japanese-multiplication-method-just-multiplied-my-brain-by-zero

That looks extremely complicated but I will try it. Luckily, as a high school student, I'm finding English and literature to be my hardest subjects. I can understand English but why in the world do some vet schools want you to have so many preresaquits in literature? Is it just another ass kissing course?

I was slower to learn multiplication than my peers, but once I did learn it, I was better at it than most of them, because I never did memorize multiplication tables. That was the method most used--rote memorization without conceptualizing what it meant--and it didn't work for me. I learned multiplication by applying the concept. 1x7: one group of 7 is 7. 2x7: two groups of 7 is 14. 3x7: three groups of 7 is 21. 6x7: six groups of 7 is two groups of three groups of seven is 42. Et cetera. It might be slower when you reach higher numbers like this, but somehow I seem to be better at multiplying large(ish) numbers in my head than most people are. You just need to find a learning style which works for you.

Wow, that's amazing! It seems flawed in that one never really learns to multiply (what if you don't have paper?), but it is a very neat trick. I wonder how someone first came up with it.

The numbers just keep getting bigger. Once I have the twelves memorised, I have to memorise the teens and then the infinities. It's impossible to memorise them.

Kaybee's way is actually how I do it now when I forget. Somewhere I picked that up too.