Tired after Social Activities

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Anyone else?

Do you get tired after social activities?

What can you do to increase your not so tiredness?

Yes I am. It's unavoidable for me. Maybe if I didn't put so much effort in preparing and worrying about social interaction. But the very act of socializing is always stressful. Even if I had a good time I'll need to have a rest.

I don't know where you are with your socialising skills but I'd say just be yourself and don't put so much preparation into it. Usually when I barely put any effort in wearing something appropriate I have a better time. I hardly ever think about what I'm going to say.

Depending on the degree, I feel tired in a way that is not simply exhaustion. I can still have a good time, but I'll feel burnt out all the same.

I also get exhausted by social activities, and there's nothing I can do to make it less tiring. Just trying to keep up with discussions (especially in a noisy environment) burns my battery very quickly.

I don't do much in terms of preparation (besides choosing what to wear and possibly buying a present when it's necessary). If anything, preparing for an event is just as tiring for me as the event itself.

The only thing that kinda works is having a good night of sleep the day before. This way I've got enough energy to last me through the evening.

Social activities wear me down. It's not quite tiredness, really. I just feel worn out, or maybe burned out is a better description. A lot of it is frustration, as I see people having a good time, having fun, and interacting quite effortlessly, but for me it is a lot of work for few results.

Yeah, it can be very tiring. I don't go out much, but if we have people over to our house, I usually need to have a bit of time out in my room at some point. It's so exhausting trying to make small talk!

I spent years thinking I had some form of food intolerance, which no amount of food diaries and exclusion diets ever identified. Then we had the idea of "social calories", which correlate almost exactly with my IBS-type symptoms. Social calories are intensity multiplied by time - even pleasant social interaction causes ill-effects if it is intense.

I take a small amount of anti-anxiety medication (Valium) and it really helps minimise the effects, but can not eliminate them. I use the medication is little as possible.

Progressive muscular relaxation, the mindfulness breathing exercises, yoga etc can all help train the body to minimise the physical responses to anxiety, which also reduces the impact.

When I get home after college class i need to decompress with time to myself before I can socialize with my family. If I don't I have a general meltdown and everything little thing weighs down on me.

Is this normal?

Yeah of course it is.
There's been a slight change to my routine. My mum is hardly around and then she is there with her new boyfriend. I've become withdrawn, or moody or just down right snappy.

I can only do one bit of social interaction in a day. For me that would be the college class. After that I'm turning off to the world.

I got two college classes back to back.

Mind you not only am I driving which is a mental task and is tiring.

I'm also learning new information.

And then also asked to socialize untop of it. And the socializing kills me, because its my HCD class which has a lot of social activities, talking with people, sharing goals and life aspirations, etc. That really leaves me numb.

Like literally when I'm done conversating with people and I have been conversation with a lot of different people, my head just feels numb.

I've heard about this social fatigue thing, but I've never seen it in myself. Probably because I hardly ever know when I'm getting tired.....I know when I feel sleepy, but I think this is something rather different.

Last year I had a very social phase lasting several months, and knowing about Aspie social fatigue, I was watching for signs of it, but I just seemed to be going from strength to strength Mind you, I felt pretty safe with the people I was mixing with. They were relatively non-judgemental and they were "like-minds" in many respects, odd-ball types who can't make me feel like I'm the weird one.

That social phase ended because a lot of it was music related, and one of the key people kept breaking appointments because of alcohol and relationship problems, until it was impossible to arrange anything with much hope of it actually happening..... I also stopped seeing a lady because I ran out of appropriate reasons - there had been some bad fights between her and another music buff, and for a while I was working as a mediator between them.....so when the trouble was over, I didn't feel it was proper for a married man to hang out one-on-one with another lady for purely social reasons.

So my withdrawal from that intense social world doesn't seem to be down to fatigue. I'm still on good terms with all those people, and when we do happen to meet, we generally relate pretty well thanks to the groundwork we'd put in over the summer. But I've been unusally tired since then.....I tend to blame that on the cold weather and bad light, but maybe something inside has just had enough for the moment.

The social exhaustion might also be related to being more of an introvert. I'm not sure though. On my own I can have a lot more energy than when I'm around other people. Just being around them exhausts me.

Being inattentive common household tasks can make me tired. Some days I just run around doing things because of all the energy but on the days where I feel most lethargic it's a real chore to do, well, chores.

It is.

When I was with my ex, and then later my grandmother, I'd get home from school or work or whatever and they'd immediately want to talk to me and it'd just destroy my evening if I couldn't get away.

Social situations exhaust me big time. Even if it's people I like, I can never relax. Everything requires a conscious effort.

Tired, stressed, jangled.

I need recuperating down time.

Avoidance is my middle name.