vague about his childhood

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I have read so much from individuals with AS who talk about the difficulties of their childhood, friendships, school etc

My husband appears very non-specific about his childhood and can only provide the following details:

1) Yes, he had friends
2) His parents were very routine oriented
3) Things were done in certain ways
4) He was a class clown
5) school was fine
6) other kids were fine
7) main activity with other kids was playing sports
his father would "blow his top" when he was naughty
9) his father hit him around the head as a form of punishment when he was younger

Husband underwent an assessment yesterday at autism association and his aspergers was confirmed. during the discussion i noticed (as I am sure the assessors did) that my husband became "uncomfortable" when asked about details of his friendships. he just sort of quickly changed the subject, grimaced and/or said everything was fine.
Is he just in denial?
Could it be that he was so into his own world and thoughts that he really didn't even notice the difference between him and others or perhaps he just coped better and was able to copy the behaviours of his peers?

Since I first met my husband, I sensed an "unusual" atmosphere in his family home. Everything was too calm, too ordered and they only talked about certain things of a factual nature. my husband consistently denies being abused, but IMO hitting a child around the head is abuse!

He could be in denial. Maybe he feels uncomfortable with drama so he pretends everything is and always was fine.

If he wants to think that, is there a reason he shouldn't?

A lot of abuse survivors fail to remember large chunks of their childhood, or else try not to remember it.

He might be keenly aware of everything and avoid the subject because he's uncomfortable talking about his feelings at all or with strangers. There might be a lot more going on inside than he lets on. I'm always fine as well, when someone asks. How I really feel is rarely put into words.

my sister who is also on the spectrum always says everything is fine...even when they are not, then I get verbally assaulted when I dont know how difficult her life is. urrg. It seems with her it is all or nothing...no hints or otherwise until she lets down the floodgates.
His responces smack of denial. It is really obvious to me. When everything is FINE, but no other details are given...it is quite the opposite. That is different if he was talking to a cashier, but to you or a therapist...it really sounds like things were not fine at all.
Is there a possibility that he might have brain injury also from his father hitting him in the head. That is very possible.

The factuality of his home enviroment also spell a genetic component for his autism.