Are you a negative influence on friends/family?

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I know I am. I can see how I influenced my brother's development, my mother is another victim of the stress and subtle influences of my autism which is totally alien to her. My parents are now separated. I've witnessed my best friend change over the years that we've been hanging out, he has adopted some of my unhealthy mannerisms. People influence and are influenced by those they associate with, my autism has been a destructive force.

I think I'm actually a good influence. I correct people's grammar mistakes all the time, and everyone I'm around now never says "good" as an adverb anymore. Example:

Person: How are you?
Stepdad: I'm doing good.
Me: WELL. You're doing WELL.


Also, I've recently gotten my stepdad interested in the Periodic Table. (we bought a 1000-piece Periodic Table puzzle and finished it 25 hours later)

Not really my whole family is kind of messed up, so its hard to say who is negatively influencing who exactly. And you will get a different story from different people. Like my mom and grandmother would be likely to think I and my siblings smoke ciggerettes because of our cousin though they would then say me and my sister smoking before our brother was what really got him smoking......my reletives in minnesota would blame our cousins out there and I feel like memories of my dad smoking as a child were what really influenced me. but that is just one very small example of one thing that probably involves me and my family influenceing each other.

I think my family is more of a bad influence... out of all my family i think i would have a pretty neutral influence as im either never home or busy doing something on my own...

I think any friends will have both positive and negative effects on each other... but considering the friendship is there the positives would obviously dominate the negatives

I guess my negative influence would be my laziness... it probably rubs off onto my friends motivation sometimes...

Maybe I'm giving myself too much credit. My mom comes from a messed up family and was married to a psychopath in her past, it's more likely her influence is the root of some of the influence I've sown, but yeah... aspergers is also a factor.

I spent a year living halfway across the country and that heavily stressed my parents. I seem to influence them even remotely.

Kinda'.
I know I've helped my dad, but caused my mother a LOT of stress.

My cousin is my best friend, so I'm not sure. I've lead her down so bad paths in some regards, but I've helped her self esteem tonnes.

My mom was married to a guy who was 26 when she was 16, then she was with my alcoholic dad who she had me and all my siblings with eventually they divorced and she has a boyfriend but they don't get along very well and she goes out and drinks to avoid him....like my dad when she was with him. But yeah they did not know I have AS and my dad still does not know. So any influence I had was not taken that way you could say it was just taken as me complaining too much and being too sensative or whatever.

Well I was forced to go to church from the ages 0-18. A simple educational book on evolution was considered taboo.

Forced to hang out with my sister and her friends who didn't like me.

My teachers worried about me but my parents never took me to a doctor.

I was falling behind but the school always moved me up the next grade.

I was bossed by my older siblings. My sister closest to my age was incredibly manipulating for someone so young.

My dad blamed me when his tools got broken.

My mum yelled at me when a simple correction would have sufficed. Actually calling it yelling won't do. She never yelled but lost her sh**.


If I was a bad influence on them I don't care. I'm not going to apologise or feel sorry for my actions that I wasn't even aware about.

Friends and family are a negative influence on me.

I believe I have been a positive influence for the most part on my family. When members of my family get down, I can usually get them up by engaging them in some activity like watching a movie, going out to eat, or doing something with an interest to get their mind off of things.

I don't even influence them.

okay, I'm curious what awful things did you do to become a "destructive force" in your family and with your friends?