Aimless wrote:
Callista wrote:
Executive dysfunction: Not being able to get around to doing stuff.
Laziness: Not doing something about the problem.
I have to tell myself this a lot: Executive dysfunction means that I suck at organizing, suck at stopping and starting things, suck at doing things on time or judging how long I'll need. And that does excuse a lot of things--and I need to stop beating myself up about those things.
There's one thing it doesn't excuse, and that's doing what I can to deal with my executive dysfunction, find ways around it, find ways to organize myself and figure out how to work with this weird brain of mine. And, as long as I'm doing my best to learn new ways of dealing and to use the ones I've already learned, then I've done all I can ask of myself. Feeling guilty over things I can't control will only make things worse, because I'm beating myself up over something I can't do yet, instead of taking action and finding a way to deal with the problem.
Well that's the weird thing, you need executive function to plan ways around the problems of executive function. At least that's a problem for me. I've often thought I need someone to set the routine for me.
This is certainly my problem. I can work out lists of instructions, etc. (like Callista's post on how to clean a room - which I really love, btw), but sticking to it can sometimes be overly complex and frustrating. I do a lot better with stimulants (hence my ADHD diagnosis) but I seem to have a tendency to overwork when I take those.
Anyway, I've spent years trying to think my way out of the problem but I didn't really know what the problem was. I have been doing better in the time since I knew what the problem was, as I know what was going wrong, but it's really only effective with medication, structure, and routine, and my tendency toward inertia is actually worse.