More sensitive to rejection than NTs?

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Do you think aspies and auties are more sensitive to rejection than their peers? Or, do you suppose after getting rejected they develop a sensitivity to it?

I have been rejected numerous time and even by another person on the spectrum-it does make you sensitive and it hurts.

Yes, I've become very sensitive to rejection. This is why I am now afraid to meet new people.

So you think it's more about what they experience than something innate?

From some people

as much rejection as i face, you would think im used to it. im not.

i believe its the reason i have no friends today. I try to tell myself i dont fear rejection, but my subconcious knows im full of crap.


It never gets any easier

I am very sensitive to rejection and when I am in contact with people I am really scared to talk and say something wrong or do something wrong, even online to write something wrong.
It becomes an obsession of "trying not do the wrong thing". But I also had rejecting-situations in childhood so it might come from that. And maybe NT's with an attachment-disorder react the same way.

I am way too sensitive. I make myself sick worrying that Ive offended people. Im never sure if people are being totally honest with me, or uf they actually like me. I also find connecting with others to be very difficult so, when they reject me, I take it especially hard.

I've been rejected by a fellow Aspie as well. He called me an egomaniac, though I'm pretty sure he was just projecting (we both had strong opinions). It hurt a lot.

I never thought about rejection before, but I realize now why I keep so quiet in most situations and just say back what people want to hear. It can be a problem because I end up being passive aggressive instead, or so deferential that the relationship ends up being harmful to me.

So maybe for those who are sensitive to rejection, take comfort in the fact that it's a release?

I'm not sensitive at all to rejection. I used to be, but I thought that dwelling on rejection seemed to be bad for my mental health and so I've adapted a "I don't care" policy, though I do try to develop friendly relations with others. (Of course, maybe I'm no longer sensitive because my mental health possibly declined due to schizophrenia? Lol. )

Or do I *really* develop friendly relations with others? Hmmmm....

With the amount of rejection that I have received, I think that I would have lost my mind a long time ago if I had been highly sensitive to rejection. One thing that helped me was not knowing that I was being rejected. Built-in autistic protections.

I've gotten better about it with time, but I'm still really sensitive to rejection. I'd love to be able to be the type of person who could say, "I don't care what people think," but unfortunately it's just not true.

I think that I am less sensitive to rejection than most NTs. Even in school I didn't care much what others thought of me, so their rejection didn't mean much to me. I'm a very solitary person though. I'm the type of Aspie who has never felt the need to work hard for inclusion. I would imagine it would be extremely upsetting for Aspies who do want friendships though- And I'm not really sure that it would mean you were "more" sensitive, as perhaps it is pretty unlikely that most NTs would experience such frequent and total rejection. I think the level of upset would be quite understandable.

even though I haven't experienced rejection in a long, long time, it's rather *yawn* to me.

I stopped caring about "rejection" when I learned to stop giving a flying frag what people think of me.

I think it depends on how much you want to be accepted/please people, or if you don't care what people think at all. I think it hurts worse when acceptance is really something you're striving for.

I always hate it when I scare people away online. I think I am afraid of rejection because I don't approach people. Real life and online. I try and not let it bother me if someone stops talking to me.