Your Own Brother Gets Off Deliberately Causing A Meltdown

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Sadistic A**hole for an older brother

Disclaimer: The person who uploaded this onto his YouTube channel is NOT the same person who was taping his little brother having a meltdown.

http://www.youtube.com/user/DiaperSecto ... -ld57eaS-s

I'm not going to give the author of the video, the satisfaction of my watching it, based on what the content is said to be.

Anyone who KNOWINGLY lends to, causes, or exacerbates an autistic meltdown is a coward and has borderline personality disorder. Shame on him, and if I catch anyone trying that, I'll stop them and make them wish they never thought of doing that!

Charles

Borderline? I think you're mixing up borderline and antisocial. BPD is just what happens when a person has an unstable identity and mood. Antisocial personality disorder is the "I don't care about anybody but myself" disorder.

TBH I think the kid came off as a bully. Yelling and screaming at his mother and it was obvious he has mental problems. Oppositional defiant disorder I bet. I knew an aspie with it and he reminds me of that kid in the video. He was also a bully who treated his mother that way and hurt kids in his school and teachers too. He just did it for control and for no reason.

But good for that mother for not giving in on her boy like my ex aspie mate's mother did. She always gave in on him because she was afraid of him. He would hit her and break things to get his way. He was very manipulative. So any kid I see who is screaming at their mother like that, I will suspect ODD.

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I was kinda thinking the same thing. I don't have meltdowns like that, so I wouldn't know, but that seemed a little bit extreme.

Not to mention, I blame the parent more than the older brother with the camera for exacerbating the situation.

I was thinking the same thing about the mother when I saw the videos. I would have told the brother to shut off the camera. I recall the screaming brother screaming about his brother taping his tantrums so obviously the recording was escalating them and the mother was letting it happen. She should get him help. If she thinks her son taping it all is going to knock the behavior out of him, she's ignorant. It's obvious he has problems so he isn't just some normal kid who is deciding to scream at his mother and brother. I bet my ex aspie mate would beat the person up if they video taped him during one of his episodes. That's what he did to other people all the time when they piss him off rather it was intentional or unintentional.

Wow people calm down.
You see there a few minutes of the life of a family and you think you can put a label on people. Actually we know nothing, not what happened before and not what happened after recording this video. We don't even know if this video is only faked; people do a lot things to get views on youtube.
You don't know how the mother acts with her little son if there's no cam recording. You don't know how much this little boy is affected, obviously he wears nappies - so how you can call him bully? Maybe he is just not able to express his needs differently. We know nothing so we shouldn't assume, much less judge about people.
I'm not saying I don't tend to judge or to assume sometimes, it's probably only human and it often happens through the perception and the feelings we get of a situation.
I just can't understand how people can put something like that on youtube.

'Information is not knowledge.' Albert Einstein

The mother mistakingly assumes that her older son is videotaping the tantrum for the younger son's therapist, not for his own amusement, and definitely not so he can upload it to YouTube. That's why she tells the older son to be discreet when filming him. That doesn't look like a meltdown, it looks like a combination of whining, tantruming, and pleading, which are all manipulative behaviors. Unlike a meltdown, the younger son looks like he's in control of his responses.

Whatever problems the younger son has, it's pretty clear that the mother has no idea how to deal with it. If she's still changing the younger son's diapers, she's enabling the situation and she's way in over her head. I don't think the older son is so much sadistic, as he is resentful and angry about living in that environment. The whole family has anger problems, and it appears that they're not getting the help that they need in responding to it. The older son's YouTube account was taken down shortly after Canadian social services looked into the matter. The older son is living with his father, and is apparently much happier being out of that living environment.



I'm going to assume frustration. The older son is pretty much trapped in that environment, and it appears very little is being done to correct it. It's a pretty passive aggressive move on his part, and like the actions of the mother, and the younger son, a reaction to a family situation that requires some serious professional intervention.

Not sure what kind of diagnosis is appropriate for anyone in that family, based on the behaviors, but it's clear that something is not working. I'm not going to blame the mother for not knowing how to deal with something out of the ordinary, parents are human beings who don't automatically know the correct way to deal with every situation. That situation is beyond the scope of normal parenting skills.

What's so hard to ask nicely for things you need or want? How is it hard to not scream for what you want?

How could I call him a bully? Because he reminded me of my ex aspie mate, he yelled and screamed at his mother and never asked nicely and he threatened people to get his way and that kid in the video does nothing but yell and scream and as Buck oh said, it looked like more like tantrums as he was whining and pleasing which is all manipulative. I also saw how the boy treated his mother and my ex aspie mate treated his mother that way too by screaming at her. That is how abusers treat their loved ones or children, they yell and scream at them and treat them like that and abusing is also a form of bullying.

From what I know about the diapers, I read that he wears them because he refuses to use the bathroom but I don't know if that is true or not or just ignorance on the brother's part. His channel got deleted and now someone else is reporting his videos.


I forgot about the video taping park Buck oh, good point. If the brother was taping it for the therapy and she was getting him help, it was still mean to put it on youtube but taping it for the therapist would be a whole different story. The brother just tricked the mother. He probably told her he was doing it for the therapist.


I am glad the older brother got out because you do not want to live in that environment. I remember what it was like when I was at my ex play mate's house and he was a whole different person there. He didn't do it at my house but he did it at his. Funny enough, when I was in my teens I thought if I had to deal with that stuff, I would be video taping it and showing it to everyone to humiliate him and turn it into a show my way of dealing with it. But no way I would have put it online because there wasn't youtube back then and I didn't know how to upload videos then. If I had no one to show the videos too, I would have treasured them to show to my kids in the future but by then I would have been over it and not show them to them for amusement.

I am very critical about this behavior so of course I am going to have a negative view on all this than having sympathy because of what I have experienced myself. Even if a mentally ill person was doing abuse in their family, I still wouldn't have sympathy for them. People sure don't have sympathy for child molesters when they molest a child just because they were molested themselves as children so I don't have sympathy for people like that boy. I try and have it but it's not there. The best I can say it putting it on youtube wouldn't help because he has mental problems and needs help. Video taping it won't help. But you made good points too fallen angel. A video doesn't always tell the whole story and people can tape what they want you to see. Those things just remind me about my old aspie mate so I am going to to have critical views about it. Maybe the brother was provoked and then he started to scream so the brother took out his camera and started recording perhaps. Maybe he did ask nicely for the remote back and the brother refused to give it back so once he started screaming, the brother turned on his camera. Maybe the brother just took the remote from him to upset him and once he refused, he started screaming and bam camera shut on.