Aspies and kissing

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Im woundering if this is an aspie thing or not.
I have a boyfriend who I love and he loves me and I like hugging him and every now and then petting his hair but I really dont like kissing. He likes it but I dont know why. To me its just odd. Its shareing germs and the feeling of some one lips on yours is just strange to me. I dont like it. And I have no clue why he likes it so much. He knows I dont like it. Im just woundering if not liking kissing is an aspie thing or a me thing. Any one else not like kissing?

I like kissing, but it leaves me out of breath if I do it too long. My ex couldn't stand that because she loved long make out sessions.

I think that's just OCD dear. That's a you thing. Kissing is a pretty natural thing and my boyfriend is an aspie and he loves kissing, though I think the amount of kissing, and type goes hand in hand with various sex drives too. I'd imagine everyone is different. My sister and her bf never make out but they give sweet innocent little kisses. It's all personal preference.

Am I the only one who thinks the idea of sticking your tongue into somebodies mouth is a bit weird?

No. It is weird. Unless of course it is for possessing purposes, e.g. transferring your tongue into someone's mouth to turn them into a demon.

Sorry, it was just in a movie.

A person can certainly do other things to share affection.

With one former lady friend, as we lay on her sides, she would like to lift up her arm and I would stroke her including the sensitive area under her arm. Then she would get her fill and it would be enough.

One of the best memories of my life is kissing one of the girls I dated. She didn't love it, thought it was something teenagers do, yet she was really good at it and I liked her a lot on top of it.

With someone who doesn't know how to kiss properly or you aren't that attracted to or both, it isn't this big deal.

Plus, most women I've kissed have this sweet taste to their breath, it's hard to explain, but it's great.

I only ever kissed one person--at a dance when I was 15, and I was sort of pressured into it for most of the night (every time I tried to pull away, he wouldn't let me--which led to an incredible meltdown by the end of the night, so I think I managed to scare him off completely!) Anyway, I absolutely hated it. At that time, I was not opposed to the idea of ever kissing someone, and I certainly did not imagine it to be so horrible. I really didn't like it though. It was sooooo awkward. I had no idea what I was supposed to, when it was supposed to end, where I was supposed to put my head and even my lips (I didn't know the lips didn't line up exactly at that time). I was really horrible--and I have no idea why he even WANTED to keep kissing me for the rest of the night, because I was an AWFUL kisser. I know I was. He also did the tongue thing, and I HATED that. Felt very instrusive. Yeah, I don't miss kissing at all.

I really wanted to satisfy each of the two girls I have ever kissed, but it required enormous level of self-mastery to actually restrain myself form immediate escape whilest kissing. Unfortunately, both girls liked the tongue-thing too. One of them thought I just couldn't kiss, the other I had inhibitions. None of it is true. I can't help it, it's soooo deep-seated in my nature.

I like kissing, but I can't seem to do two things at once...like kissing and breathing. So, I usually lose my breath and have to stop.

I used to like it when I was a kid. I used to do doggy kisses and butteryfly kisses and kissing people, my brothers and my friends. I kissed people up until the age of 13. My Down syndrome friend did that to me and I felt grossed our and embarrassed and I learned that is how it felt to others so I never did it again. She unintentionally taught me something.

Now I don't like it. It feels wet and gives me the creeps because of the feeling on the lips. After the long kiss, I never wanted to do it again. I just wanted to try it and see what it was like but could never do it because no one wanted to.

Only kisses I give to is my son and I do sucky ones too and he does the same to me. But if my husband did it to me, it creep me out. I think I had taught my son that kiss.

I will be flexible and give my husband a short kiss too when he wants it.

Although I'm 21 years old, I've never snogged before

(But I will do soon )

But I have kissed men before, which I thoroughly enjoyed.

Not an aspie thing.

There are non-aspies who don't like to kiss.

I don't mind kissing.