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A few years ago i got diagnosed with Autism, Now i always knew there was something wrong, having serve mood swings when i was younger, always wanting to be on my own rather then out trying to make friends and such so it was nice to finally know for sure. Of course i knew that wouldnt suddenly make me better or anything it was just nice to actually know for sure why i was the way i was

But now im stuck, i have no job, no friends (due to the fact that i have no social life as i find it impossible to make friends) and i spend all my time on my computer which i have like obsession with - used to be computer games but now its computers in general.

I have many mood swings during a day, one minute can be happy and fine and using my computer then the next depressed, bored, alone i hate it even my random violence mood swings seems to have have returned, one minute i will be fine then next just full of anger and pissed off at the slightest thing that wont go my way or trying to do something that wont work which worries the hell out of me as when i was younger family members would be too worried too talk to me at times and i could just snap at them saying anything, and it got very bad at times, resulting in violence.

But i just dont know what to do anymore, If i didnt have my computer i would have nothing and i dont know what to do to fix it, I have been trying to look for a job for several years now in the hope that getting one will get me out and about and even meet new people but its just so hard to even get an interview at the moment and of course worried if i should say i have Autism or not would that get me fired if i dont mention it or anything?

Anyone got any tips? I just have no idea where my life is going, my mood swings and everything is driving me crazy as well. I cant talk to my family about it as i just dont like sharing my feelings with people - i guess i find it easier online where i dont actually know anyone or anything.

Thought about asking my doctor about anger management classes or something because if my anger issues are coming back i want to be in control of them as soon as possible as there were times where i had to be physically restrained to stop me from fighting, at school i was suspended alot and expelled twice due to my anger problems.

Are you male? It's important with everyone to ensure that you do something physical regularly, but it's even more important with males.

Gardening, walking, training, learning to dance (great way to meet the opposite gender). Even if you don't feel like doing it, just think of it as a medication that's good for you.

Yes i am male. I tried dancing before and it didnt seem to work that well, of course this was with my Ex (she has Autism as well) but we wouldnt really talk to anyone, even though she knew them for years and such.

The fact i have a real fear of going places that i havent been before and suffer from really bad paranoia when im out with crowds of people or on busses or trains, thats the main reason i tend not to go out as i get really paranoid that all the people are talking about me and if i go to a place that i havent been before i get lost VERY easily and of course then i get too paranoid to even ask people where i am or get directions

If its somewhere ive been before then its not as bad as long as i have my music up as loud as it can be so i can concentrate on that rather then all the people.

Bike Riding is good, i do that some times but i tend to try and leave until a time or day when i know the roads are going to be as empty as they can be because i am very dangerous on my bike, just like walking i dont look across the road when im walking/riding and have nearly been hit ALOT i dont use hand signals when turning or anything - its funny saying it now but when im actually on my bike or walking i just dont think about them at all - my mind wonders ALOT

Wandering out does sound a bit hazardous!

Do you have a garden, or space in your home to exercise? How about a Wii?

Is there something you would like to be able to do? And then break down the getting there into manageable chunks, either leaving a couple of hours early, or even doing a recce trip, where you do a trial run of how to get there on the week before the lesson.


If you have been nearly hit a lot, I'd recommend that you ensure that you wear something very bright (you can remove it when you get to your destination), just to put the odds in your favour.

Dancing didn't work for me for years, until I met the right teacher. She broke down things properly.
She used to be a ballet teacher, so understood muscles and how to describe movements in minute detail.

I need that kind of "Doh" detail. Lol.
The thing is, belly dancing was actually interesting to me, as I wanted to know how the strange movements worked. So the effort wasn't too much work, and I WANTED to do it.

One day, I'd love to be able to do what they can do
I can do some, but not put them all together like that( you need the volume on, as it makes no sense without sound):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXSX_f-Z-Lc

It wasnt that i didnt understand it or that i didnt want to do it - part of it was that im crap at dancing, even though i enjoyed it - Paso doble was my fav dance, though i liked others - it was more about the interaction with other people at the time i had my Ex girlfriend to dance with so i enjoyed it now i just dont think i could - unless its with someone that i already know, i just wouldnt be able to go to a dance school or anything and learn with strangers

So, the priority, as you are male, is to get your body moving. What do you think you can do for the next three days, even if it's not the same thing every day?

Nothing that i would want to do, nothing that interests me in anyway that i would rather be on my computer. I know i have to go shopping at some point but knowing that i am forced to go out on Thursday (Jobcentre) means that i will likely leave it until then to do shopping.

If i had friends then i would go see them, just a shame that i dont have any around here and the few i do have are busy with there own busy lives, i could go to town or something - but that would be just as boring going there on my own music as loud as possible, get back and feel like crap and all alone because i come back to an empty house.

So i guess part of the reason i am on my computer so much, is so that i dont feel alone, bored and depressed all the time - at least then i have something to concentrate on, something to fixate on and to be able to ignore everything else that is happening and for a few hours at least not too feel all alone