I speak my mind!

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I feel like I was born without a filter. I just speak my mind no matter what. So tonight I was at dinner with my family and I saw the manager at the resurant and I pointed at him and said "you look kind of like a doctor!" He sorta just made a werid face at me and didnt say any thing. I'm not sure why I thought he looked like a doctor but he kinda did I guess. Any one else say weid things like that to people they dont know?

No. If you want to get information from me, good luck. I don't have a filter, I have a thick concrete wall that's vacuum sealed and ray shielded.

Think before you speak, not everyone looks like a doctor haha

I am like that sometimes. I have had friends get upset over me for speaking my mind. I try not to but I generally speak my mind. but I don't yell things like that at people.

ive done that before, only felt like an idiot because my friends said something about it, i didn't really notice i did it.

Once my dad asked me what I would like for breakfast and I said steak because that was what I really wanted

Good thing you thought he looked like a doctor; we can only imagine the consequences had it occurred to you that he looked like a pimp or a ferret.

I find it easier to refrain from doing the wrong thing, even if I can't quite manage the right thing. If I have a sense my words will go awry (don't you get that tingling spider sense?), maybe I can't change to say the right thing, it's usually manageable to stand mute. This can be somewhat awkward, but not as bad as saying the wrong thing.

Once my dad asked me what I would like for breakfast and I said steak because that was what I really wanted

I was like this many years ago, but now know when to button it.

I am usually very cautious about what I say, because I understand cause and effect and I can't handle conflict. My brain overloads and goes fuzzy. Still there have been times I've said something people have reacted to because it simply didn't occur to me that someone would be offended, i.e. they were reading subtext that wasn't there.

I never speak to people I don't know, unless they speak to me, but I wouldn't say anything inappropriate.

A friend once told me I say things other people only think about, and he apparently said that because I had just exposed some of his "secret thoughts".

I try to be careful about that kind of thing today, but "Honest/Candid Aspie" is still my personal bent.

I used to speak my mind all the time. Nowadays, I think before I speak to avoid hurting other peoples feelings.

I don't understand why people tell us to think before we speak because isn't one of the characteristics of autism is TOM issues? So wouldn't it not help us if they said that to us because how are we going to know what will offend someone?

I used to be told this a lot as a kid but it was never helpful because I never knew how people would react to things I say. Then once I started to think how it would make me feel, that helped because I just assumed however I feel, others would feel the same way too. That method makes it less likely you are to offend someone.


Now I hardly speak my mind. I am mostly quiet and shy because I don't know what to say or if it's going to offend or not. Anything I say may offend. I am also afraid of conflicts too.

But when I am around family or people I know or feel comfortable with, my social filter seems to go off because i say more and I get told I say lot of things lot of people wouldn't say. When I make people laugh, I always think I may have said something wrong. I even ask them what's so funny and they don't really tell me. I guess I didn't say anything wrong then. Maybe they just thought I was funny.

I've always said pretty much everything that was in my head but it definitely got worse when my Tourettes started! Now as well as blurting out everything I am thinking, it blurts out random nonsense as well!

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