Decisiveness

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In genera, are aspies rather decisive or not? Can aspies make decisions easily?

It depends on the Aspie in question. For me, yes.

If it's about a rational decision concerning daily things I have no problems to decide things. If there are feelings involved and it's against my intuition or my feelings but my mind says it would be right from the rational side when I have some trouble. The best decisions are made if your mind and your heart are in line with each other but that's rarely the case : )
I have a family so some decisions need to be discussed together and then we try to agree on a common decision. If a family member disagrees we try to balance the pros and cons and this works usually. Decisions I make on my own I only communicate to my family.
Sometimes I am really surprised how little decisions can turn into a big discussion but big decisions are made so much easier.

Depending on the situation, yes. If it's a big life change decision, no, can't be decisive to save my life, literally.

I tend to have a gut instinct of what I want to do, but often my rational mind says "that's stupid" and I just get stuck in a loop and it's hard to make a decision because it feels like once you make the decision you can't change it, which is lame because it sucks to make the wrong decision. If only life were like a video game... Sigh....

Decisive? Yes.
Impulsively decisive? No.

Not good at decision-making. Can see too many possibilities. Cannot collapse down to one path. Argh!! !! !! !

I'm not good at making decisions. Sometimes impulsiveness helps. Other times tedious planning. Repercussions after decisions... oh no, don't mention them.

Recently I experienced how material my thinking was, I guess it's an AS trait too. I bought a digital camera, and I wasn't able to choose a model on the internet. I went to a mall instead, grabbed in my hand dozens of them one by one, and was happy to choose a sympathetic one in the end.

Amen to "We're humans, too"

That said, it's a cliche that when the restaurant staff sees their Aspie regular coming, they know what to put on the stove. I can walk into a strange restaurant, even a MacDonald's, and take an hour of their time trying to make a decision about what I want to eat. Once I know what they have, and what I like best that they have, it's a whole lot less hassle ordering what I know I like best than it is trying to figure out what I want of something else, even though I know that *all* their food is good.

But I don't have a problem with the bigger decisions. Just don't tell me in McDonald's that you're not doing McRibs this month, after I came in expecting one! I'll take a long time figuring out what else I want! And probably end up rolling an 8-sided die.

In an emergency I can be very decisive--or somebody in my head can. I'm not sure it's me, but I'm glad whoever it is has appeared. Once the emergency is over, I'm back to living at random, drifitng in whatever direction seems the most appealing at the moment, but careful never to make an irrevocable commitment.

Let me put it this way. Last time i was in GameStop, i spent 2 hours trying to decide between two games...

I identify with a lot of the points already made. The trouble is I can always see the downside of everything so it ends up being a choice of the least among evils.