Are you inflexible

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Do you consider yourself inflexible? Or have you been told that you are inflexible? Please give examples of such times.

I can't answer using those limited options.

Other people say I'm inflexible.

Sometimes I will appear to flex in action, and cope well with change, but if there has been no warning my mind needs time to catch up with that change and sometimes there is a delayed meltdown ... like the change suddenly hits me after the fact and my mind goes nuts trying to figure it out and become comfortable with it.

I don't believe I'm inflexible.

I just need preparation as to what I'm supposed to flex to ... I'm actually very open minded and can cope with change well as long as I am properly prepared for that change. For me that takes longer than most people, so I need good warning so that I can process the information and be prepared.

There are situations in which I am actually more flexible than most and have a reputation for being extremely calm - why? Because I realise those situations , travelling for example (you have no control over when a bus might show up or how late a plane might be delayed), that flexibility is necessary and so my plan is to be flexible. So while other people are stressed because the flight has a two hour delay, I'm happily sitting their watching people, listening to my music happily knowing the delay is part of the plan. I don't understand why other people get stressed in this situation - they are travelling. Surely they know there might be delays???

Take me to a different store than the one I was planning to go to, with no warning, however ... and the story is entirely different.

I am officially diagnosed.

Wish you'd had 'somewhat' options.

I don't think I'm more inflexible than others, just inflexible about different things. I'm generally more inflexible about non-social routine or sensory stuff (like what food I eat), and when I'm pushed too hard I get inflexible about resisting. But I'm more flexible about social stuff like whether it's OK for a child to flick the lights on and off obsessively, and I'm more flexible about considering new ideas.

Got confused... i was going to say with practice i am very flexible... as in i used to be able to reach 30cms past my feet when i sat on the ground...

But otherwise im not flexible at all... i have a pretty strict routine throughout the week... which includes specific meals on specific days that MUST be satisfied... as well as so much time spent surfing every day that must be satisfied...
My weekly routine keeps me comfortable and gives me a piece of mind... if something upsets my routine such as an occasion that i have to attend then i get pretty crazy anxiety episodes...

Diagnosed; inflexible.

1. Won't do something unless I really want to do it. Sounds bratty but I used to naturally find something I wanted to do in everything. So I wasn't always a brat externally. Just am as an adult.

2. If I am faced with the prospect of doing something I don't want to do I get really anxious/depressed and start thinking about The End of It All.

3. Same as 2 but "... of not doing something I really want to do."

This doesn't apply to EVERYTHING obviously. If I don't go to a movie I want to see I don't throw a tantrum and try to kill myself. So I guess only important things, long-run things.

I'm very flexible but my husband thinks I am inflexible. So I now point out my flexibility to him and he laughs about it.

In fact it's others who are inflexible and I am the one being flexible and I am the one with AS? Sometimes I feel gypped because I bothered working on it and now I am surrounded by people who are inflexible.

I have my routine and my personal interests and I like to be left alone in peace and quiet. Woe be unto the person who messes with any of this, including the busybody who wishes to officially diagnose me as inflexible. Ohhh! I get steamed just thinking about it.

I'm diagnosed, and I couldn't answer, because it's not a "black and white" issue.

I'm quite flexible in terms of being open to other perspectives, but I often have a hard time understanding people's perspectives because of problems with abstraction and language. This makes me appear argumentative and inflexible sometimes.

I'm also moderately flexible in terms of changing plans and routines (I'm open to alternative options), but like YellowBanana, my brain is very slow to adjust. Plans and routines involve a lot of pieces--there's a lot of information that needs to shift around in my head. Because of the amount of time it takes me to adjust/process information, I do not appear to be flexible in day-to-day life unless I have a lot of advance notice of changes or potential deviations from a set course of action.

I'm a very inflexible person. I can't even reach my calves sitting down trying to reach my toes.

I'm flexible, but only because of years of martial arts and ballet training.

Im inflexible in my philosophy and the way I think, Im very stubborn. I wont take peoples advice easily. I need to clearly see the why in order to change the way I think.

But in my daily living routines and scheduling and other practical applications, nope. Im fairly flexible or flexible enough for most NTs. Ive lived with NTs before, and normally the only problem they have with me is that Im antisocial and I dont connect very well. And NT females get annoyed if I dont reciprocate their emotions. I'll put up with most things as long as it doesnt majorly annoy me, like if Im losing sleep because my roommate keeps snoring.

These options are incredibly limited.

I'm diagnosed - whether or not I'm inflexible depends on various details some of which I know, some of which I have control of, and some of which I don't even know.

Basically it comes down to, if I'm losing control of other aspects of my life, I need to keep control of something. If I have control of other things, then I am fine with being flexible as long as you give me time to adjust.