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06 Sep 2011, 5:43 am

Today, I am waiting for the crosswalk sign to turn today when a women approaches me. She asks "can you help me?" So I answer honestly. I tell her I can't. I have only enough to cover my bus ride and dinner. Then she goes off on me. She won't take no for an answer! She asks "could you ask that guy(some guy in a convertible) for a dollar and give it to me?" I say no(why should I panhandle for her?). She asks "so if I saw my arm off, you couldn't even sell it for one dollar!?!" I say no. The looks at me like I've somehow insulted her! Why can't NT's accept that I am telling the truth? Should I have lied to her? Told her I'd love to help but I'm broke? I don't understand why this woman kept coming at me when I'd said(politely but with no uncertain terms) I couldn't help her? Can anyone shed some light on what might have been going through her mind?

(as an aside, she seemed like she was drunk, though I have no way of verifying one way or the other.)



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06 Sep 2011, 5:47 am

That is not NT behaviour. That is either chemically altered state (as you alluded to) or insane behaviour.



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06 Sep 2011, 6:10 am

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That is not NT behaviour. That is either chemically altered state (as you alluded to) or insane behaviour.


This.

The women is probably a desperate drug-addict. I've seen quite a few of them around in London, and yeah, they'll harrass you to s**t.

She's desperate which is why she won't accept your story.



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06 Sep 2011, 6:20 am

They can't accept the truth about anything.


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06 Sep 2011, 6:55 am

Yeah, that's not NT. That woman is bat s**t crazy.



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06 Sep 2011, 9:07 am

My bet is that being obnoxous and pestering people results at least some of the time in turning the initial no into a yes. But in anycase sounds like a coke feind to me.


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06 Sep 2011, 10:15 am

johnsmcjohn wrote:
Today, I am waiting for the crosswalk sign to turn today when a women approaches me. She asks "can you help me?" So I answer honestly. I tell her I can't. I have only enough to cover my bus ride and dinner. Then she goes off on me. She won't take no for an answer! She asks "could you ask that guy(some guy in a convertible) for a dollar and give it to me?" I say no(why should I panhandle for her?). She asks "so if I saw my arm off, you couldn't even sell it for one dollar!?!" I say no. The looks at me like I've somehow insulted her! Why can't NT's accept that I am telling the truth? Should I have lied to her? Told her I'd love to help but I'm broke? I don't understand why this woman kept coming at me when I'd said(politely but with no uncertain terms) I couldn't help her? Can anyone shed some light on what might have been going through her mind?

(as an aside, she seemed like she was drunk, though I have no way of verifying one way or the other.)

She was harassing you. Next time tell someone like that to beat it or cops will be called.

I had a lady wig out on me in an Arby's drive thru. To this day I have no idea why. It could be that the guy at the window didn't give me a straw so I slammed on my brakes hoping it wasn't too late to get one. It was so I pulled up a few feet, sent the person with me in for a straw and waited.

After the woman was finished getting her order, she gave me the worst cussing out. I asked her what was her problem towhich she replied, "b*****s like you are my problem!"

I had to laugh because I had absolutely no idea why she was so pissed. Finally I told her if she didn't cool it and get lost, I am calling the cops. It worked because she left just like that.

So, my advice is you do the same because you never know where they are going with it.



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06 Sep 2011, 10:50 am

Why are you using the example of someone who was obviously not stable to paint a broad brush against all non-autistic people in general? Doesn't make sense.


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06 Sep 2011, 12:31 pm

Sounds like a druggy.

She kept asking because most people will tell the person they don't have any money (even if they do) because they don't want to give some druggy their money...or they don't want to get mugged for more money..,or get into a conversation with them on why they are not going to give them their money. "No" essentially means, "Go away and don't bother me." So she's hoping that you really have some and if she bugs you enough, she'll get something out of you...because, like the others have said, she was desperate.



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06 Sep 2011, 12:34 pm

I agree, that isn't NT behavior and some people get pissed when you don't give them money.



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06 Sep 2011, 1:35 pm

She was probably a belligerent aspie :arrow:



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06 Sep 2011, 3:31 pm

johnsmcjohn wrote:
Today, I am waiting for the crosswalk sign to turn today when a women approaches me. She asks "can you help me?" So I answer honestly. I tell her I can't. I have only enough to cover my bus ride and dinner. Then she goes off on me. She won't take no for an answer! She asks "could you ask that guy(some guy in a convertible) for a dollar and give it to me?" I say no(why should I panhandle for her?). She asks "so if I saw my arm off, you couldn't even sell it for one dollar!?!" I say no. The looks at me like I've somehow insulted her! Why can't NT's accept that I am telling the truth? Should I have lied to her? Told her I'd love to help but I'm broke? I don't understand why this woman kept coming at me when I'd said(politely but with no uncertain terms) I couldn't help her? Can anyone shed some light on what might have been going through her mind?

(as an aside, she seemed like she was drunk, though I have no way of verifying one way or the other.)


You're expected to say "I'm sorry, but I can't." Replying with a simple "no" is considered to be rude. I don't agree with it, but that's what most people think.


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06 Sep 2011, 7:20 pm

When those kind of people ask me for a dollar, I answer, "why?". People who are up to no good usually say that it's so they can call a taxi, or some other excuse where only a single dollar wouldn't help them.



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06 Sep 2011, 7:25 pm

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When those kind of people ask me for a dollar, I answer, "why?". People who are up to no good usually say that it's so they can call a taxi, or some other excuse where only a single dollar wouldn't help them.

I usually get approached by men who say they and their wives are out of gas and need help. Sorry, I don't have twenty bucks to put in their gas tanks.