Safe Place At School

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I am going to high school next year, and I often find that I need a safe place to cool down and get away from people. Usually I just go to the bathroom and hide in a stall where I can cry and stim and be alone. I am kind of afraid for high school... I'm already bullied a ton, but I think it'll be worse in high school... :'(. Anyway, where do you go to calm down and get away in your school?

You will probably get bullied less since 7th-8th graders are the most evil.

Will your school have a learning support centre or a special needs office or something similar? If it does then that would probably be the best place to go, you can explain it to the people who work there and they can give you the space and peace and quiet you need. I would recommend getting the school to support you rather than just muddling through on your own.

I never had one when I was in public school. I was homeschooled from 5th to 12th grade and I could retreat into my bedroom whenever I wanted.

It was usually the back end of the library for me at that age. And it may not seem like it yet, but the bullying did get a lot better for me in 10-12th grade. I went to a big, big school then though so I think that actually helped. No one really knew who I was unless I wanted them to.

First time poster here...I've lingered a lot but I figure now's the time to say something.

Middle School and High School were really hard for me, I ended up making good acquaintances with my school counselors (Was not diagnosed at the time as AS was a pretty new thing and not many doctors knew anything about it) but I was able to go there anytime I needed to to relax in their little office. Vent about problems, or just enjoy some quiet time. In fact, the Counselor gave me a "hall pass" pad that she signed all the passes so I could basically sign myself out of class whenever I needed to. I just filled in my name and time/date and off I went!

Middle School was BY FAR the worst. Freshman year was tough too since all those a-holes from MS continue on with you...but by Sophomore year especially, things had tempered down with bullying. Most kids had matured a bit or grown up, and being in a bigger place it was easier to slink back and kinda stay in the shadows.

Really? I didn't get bullied much in middle school. However, there was one of two boys that I didn't like very much. Most of the staff members were excellent, but there were a few that I didn't like. Middle school was really good for me.

This. I'm English, so I'm not sure exactly when your different schools begin and end (here we have primary school from 4/5 to 10/11, which includes the equivalent of kindergarden for the first year, and secondary school from 11/12 to 15/16, plus two more optional years), but Year 7 and 8 (11-13) were when people were cruelest for me. Older kids have matured enough to find it senseless.

Toilets can be good places, as can a school library.

From my experience, grades 7-9 were the worst. 10th wasn't too bad, and 11th quite possibly could be the best year ever. I have found that in high school, its the little freshman and some sophomores who are buttholes. The older juniors and seniors are much easier to get along with. They won't be the ones giving you problems.

So basically, you're in for a year of hell, but after that year, things will get better. I don't know anyone who actually enjoyed their freshman year anyway.

Thanks for the tips guys! I guess ill try the library. I can't believe that in exactly one week the first day of high school will have just ended! I would like to be close with my guidance counselor, but i am kind of embarrassed to like go talk to her. Can you just go, or do yu like have to have an appointment?

Well unless I was in class I pretty much lived in my headphones......when I was in highschool. In highschool the bullying became lesser but no one wanted anything to do with me either. So yeah it did suck, but yeah music was a good distraction.

There was a special needs room where I used to hide out every lunchtime, and befriend the other special needs kids who were really nice children. Obviously none of them were severe, because it was a mainstream school, but they all had some sort of learning disability. It kept the bullies off of them. Luckily I wasn't bullied at all, but I didn't really have many friends to hang out with, and I didn't like wondering about on my own, so being in this special classroom did keep me happy and not lonely.

I used to do the same thing - hide in the stalls in the bathroom. lock the door and sit indian style on the toilet and hoped to be invisible. I did that from junior high on. sometimes I would leave the school at lunch and go smoke. sometimes I would hide in the magazine stacks of the library. I had only two friends all through school. I tried to fit in in school but was unable. kids just didn't like me, so I stopped trying. in jr high and HS I would hang out with james and ryan, my two friends, before and after school. they understood me.

I used to go outside school area when I was being bullied, just walk to some silent and "hidden" place.
And if you want it to work properly you need to be late from classes from 1 to 15 minutes so it can have its downsides too.

I think you can just go, as long as you keep in mind that she may be otherwise occupied and you may have to wait.

Anyway, to second what everyone else has said, high school has much less bullying than junior high. Pretty much the only time I was in school and not being bullied was grade 10 (I was homeschooled grades 7-9 and 11-12). I think it's several things - firstly, the kids aren't freaking out about entering puberty anymore; secondly they're making big gains in emotional development and particularly ability to take other people's perspectives; and lastly high schools are bigger so it's easier to just avoid the people you don't like.

Ive never been bullied LESS then once every few minutes, except in math and physics class xd