Two autistic parents with NT children?

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Anyone here with this kind of family?

What about NT children of two autistic parents?

I'm curious, because I usually read about NT-NT parents with autistic children or NT-autistic parents with autistic children, but not autistic-autistic parents with NT children.

My mom and dad are almost certainly autistic; they have two daughters. I'm autistic; my sister is NT. I guess she grew up feeling like she'd been born into a nerd convention or something!

Yep, it can happen.

Hopefully that'd be me if I ever have children. I don't want children with disabilities.

Nah, but both of my parents are NT and I have AS. That's more common, as you said.

My dad is AS without a doubt
My mum shows traits but she isn't what I would consider autistic.

My mom is sensitive to light and to some loud sounds and my dad definitely has traits, social issues and he used to be rigid about his sports but he loosened up a bit.

Then you should never have children. If you do not want a child however that child turns out, disabled or not, then you are not ready to be a parent. That is not meant as an insult; you can be a lovely person, but if you don't want children if they have disabilities, then you should not be wanting any children at all, because any child may be born or become disabled, and if you would not want them that way, then you should not have any.

Before I knew that I was autistic, I knew that I was different, and I used to think that I would only want to marry "someone like me" and have "children like us". Since then, I have come to understand that I would be perfectly happy with children of any neurology, even neurotypical neurology.

Then by that logic, lot of people should never have kids.

But they take the chances of having one and they do keep their child if it turns out they have a disability (of course there are some who don't keep them but lot of them do). My mom wanted a healthy baby but instead I ended up getting sick and then having autism and she did a good job raising me despite that she wanted healthy kids. But autistic kids are still healthy.

So not wanting disabled kids doesn't mean they will be a bad parent and that they will neglect them.

I know it's a lot of people. But I've met disabled people who grew up in households where their disability was rejected and seen as negative and wrong and shameful, and it always resulted in emotional and social fallout for them. That's not a good environment to grow up in.

If you hope your child doesn't have a disability but know you will want him just as much if he does, then that's okay.

But if you simply don't want a child with a disability, then you shouldn't have kids because that's always a possibility.