Bad parenting of autistic kids comes from mourning feeling

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http://adeepercountry.blogspot.com/2011 ... -dick.html
this was a very insightful article that got to the root of the bad parenting issue. i feel, although the article doesn't talk about it that this feeling is behind anti-vaccine movements and most other stupid crap.

That blog did not discuss 'bad parenting' at all. It discussed the idea that parents should 'mourn' their child who is autistic instead of the normal baby they didn't have. I agree with the author that that is a pretty f****d up thing, but let's also admit that you and I are leaps and bounds away from the classically autistic child who will never have a future outside of a group home. Does mourning a child who's still living MAKE you a bad parent? I'm gonna say no. You don't have to be sincere to be a good parent. It helps, but you don't have to be.

Finally!! ! Something promoting parents who accept their children as they are .

I've been waiting for something like this for a long time. People should be accepted as they are.