OMG some kids need a seditative...

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I don't know if this little girl has Autism, but today she purposely skipped her meds. Practically tried to break everything in my house with a smirk, decided to scratch my car paint up with a smirk and broke my garage door lock with a smirk. That smirk, tells me, she knows exactly what's she is doing is wrong and is purposely doing it.

I told my sister you better take her to the hospital now and get her on a sedative because I am 5 minutes away from calling the cops and having them do it or locking her up.

This kid is not mentally challenged. And I don't think she has Autism. I think they put on the wrong meds and diagnosed her wrong. UGHH.. I am so furious right now.

I am not her punching bag.

I tried to be lenient, I tried to keep her calm. She seriously needs to be in dang mental hospital. For 16 years old she acts like she's 2 and talks like she's 2.

How do I handle her? She won't listen to anything. Not a word. If it's not her way she throws the tantrum and smirks while doing it. Then starts her abusive chit, the screaming, the walking around aimlessly, She's thinks she going to be home schooled, she's refusing to go to school, refusing to take a shower or bath, refusing to flush the toilet...

UGH, OMG,... Never having kids....
Venting before I go insane and I get put in the hospital.

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm calm now.

Last edited by jasmania27 on 10 Oct 2011, 5:23 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I want to point out before it happens that you're probably going to get a lot of angry posts. Having autism doesn't make you stupid, mentally ret*d, or anything of the sort- Just because she's not stupid doesn't mean she isn't autistic. If I were you, I'd go to a local social service center and talk to someone who could help you with your niece. I understand your frustration, but sedatives aren't the key.

Dang, sister got lost and couldn't make it to the hospital.

Staying in my room until she goes to bed.

If she wants to destroy stuff, she can destroy her stuff. Not my stuff. Definitely not fair to me after I have been nothing but nice to her.

She could have autism or ADHD and Oppositional Defiance disorder on top of that. As a more mild ODD'r I can tell you even though I act like a lil basterd there are times where I feel bad about acting like said basterd. I just get into moods where I have little emotion for anyone. I think really I'm just sick of dealing with the stress.

She could also be acting act about something. Autistic children that have been abused do become violent and disruptive.

So, get the rant out but just realise there could be something more to this. If she is autistic she might have a brain that is behind her peer age.

Screw the kids. Give me the sedative.

She's definitely way behind her peer age. I think she she has ADHD, because that's what it looked like today. Hyper for these past 2 days and if you piss her off she gets brutally aggressive. SHe knows when she does wrong when she smirks about it.

Have you considered telling her about WrongPlanet? She might be better able to articulate her needs and frustrations in a neutral or virtual environment such as this one, and could discover that she isn't as different from others as she might feel.

Instead of talking about her like she's less than human, how about using some positive reinforcement or figuring out how to get some BSS/wraparound services for her? It's not her fault she's not being worked with.

^ THIS. I agree with SuperTrooper.

This is the ONE reason I was horrified by a diagnosis of AS/autism. Being treated differently and subhuman. I'm going to start a new thread as the topic could get derailed fast.

I also agree. She's not less than human because she might be on the spectrum. Saying that autistics are less than human is an insult to us, because we're trying to prove the world otherwise day in and day out, that we're not less than human.

How do you know the smirk means she knows she did something wrong?

I used to get told off all the time for "smiling" or otherwise having the wrong facial expression when I was in trouble.

Being accused of being deliberately malicious and "being bad on purpose" really hurts.

Hey kid, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

Yeah, right. I'm not falling for that a third time.

She has a problem reading and writing. I'll let her know about it. But, you'll pretty much see fghswhatfghshefghsisfghstryingfghstofghssay and no spaces in between. I've been trying to work with her on it but she gets mad at me.

I treat her like she's 16. I don't treat her like a baby. She acts like she is a baby {best way I can put it}, no, she doesn't say ga ga goo ga. When she talks, sometimes she talks in a normal tone and voice. But, when she wants HER way, and HER way only ,she pulls her ga ga goo ga.

While she was hitting me today, her mom did not discipline her. It is about discipline with this child.

Positive reinforcement, with no discipline is only telling her she can hit more. She has a discipline problem. Because she smirks, when she does it.

How do I know she's smirking?, because she gives you a challenged look before she goes to do something, like scratching my car today and kicking it. After, she does her demonic deed, she turns to you with a smirk, with this look of, "what you going to do about it".

I told her today, I was going to call the cops on her. And her response was, "go ahead" with the attitude, of they can't do nothing about it.

At 16, hitting is considered assault. Press charges. Consequences are the first rule of discipline, right? If she's had no discipline up to this point, you might need to make it a bit more clear. It would be nice if you could get a full evaluation, wraparound service, an IEP, medications if necessary - so, you know, on the off chance she is more than just a demon in teenage clothing you could actually HELP her in some sort of productive way.

But frustration is always best served by flying off the handle and ignoring the root of the problem and the possible solutions. Call the cops and let them clean up your sister's 16 year old mess.