I have a friend who I taught AS about he laughed so hard whe

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I have a friend who I taught AS about he laughed so hard when I told him Aspergers because you know what it sounds like then He was just laughing hysterically at it, then he came to using a phrase he made up when I say or do something he dosent like or whatnot he says "aspied out"

like "stop asping out"

or like there is this friend he has that i told he probably has as, then the other day I asked how is Harry doing? he said "aspied out"

We use the term "sperging" the same way, I'm "sperging out".

How rude! I wonder as to his capabilities as a friend. It's so sad, isn't it, that when we finally do manage to get friends, they sometimes become condescending like that?

If you're pronouncing it 'Ass-burgers' you're saying it incorrectly. I know that's the common Anglicization, but its wrong, and it does make people laugh. Ted Danson's old sitcom 'Becker' did an entire episode making fun of 'Ass-burgers.'

Hans Asperger pronounced his name Ahz-pair-gur. He was Austrian, so imagine Arnold Scharzenegger saying it. Ahz-pair-gur Syndrome. It doesn't sound so ridiculous when you pronounce it correctly.


Its the name of an Austrian doctor, not a Texas barbecue joint.

The Americanized version does sound like "ass burger". The only reason a minority still uses the German pronunciation is the unfortunate fact that the pronunciation that makes sense for an English-speaker starts with "ass".

We must have different definitions for "friend." I doubt I would continue a friendship with someone who acted like that.

I had a coworker who preferred the phrase, "Hey, your asperger is showing." Of course, he pronounced it the American way.

These people are obviously not your friends. Still, if someone were to say that to me, I would have punched them or at least severed all ties with them and pretended they didn't exist whenever I saw them. They'd say something me and I'd be like, "I thought I heard something. It must have been the wind."

Did you just call him friend? i'm sorry to say this but i really wouldn't even talk to such people.. forget about calling that person a friend really.

I'm going to diverge from majority opinion about this guy because I'm NT and so is he.

He actually does sound like a good friend, at least based on this tiny snippet of your interaction with him. This is simply the way many NT friends talk to each other. That sort of light teasing is a form of bonding between NTs. It is inclusion, not exclusion. I have dyscalcula and get teased about it constantly..."don't ever injure your hand or you won't be able to count past 5" and so on. In turn, I tease my friends about their quirks. I tease one friend by calling her dyslexia "lysdexia".

I know this mode of bonding is anathema to Aspies because superficially it sounds similar to actual mocking from people who dislike you. The difference is context, as well as very subtle differences in tone of voice and what exactly gets teased about. So why am I so confident that this is a good friend and I hope you don't get talked into thinking he's mocking you? The phrase "aspied out" that he created. This is a light and non-condescending term, similar to the "sperging out" that Phonic uses and shows that he wants to do a light tease that bonds rather than creating distance