Does anyone else???

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Please say yes. Lol. Does anyone here, embarrass themselves all the time, in public and in social situations. ALL THE TIME AGHHHH
Cause you're just that awkward socially. Its like High school but on a much bigger scale.
How do you not lock the door and never go out again

Like:

Me to a female colleague: "My most favorite Marry!" (as I used to please her)
She: "You are lying!" (pointing at me)
Me: (smiling)

Or:

(after coming back from a 2.5 hour bike tour amids my working time)
Female colleague#1: You stink. Have you washed yourself? (not kindly)
Me: Really?
Female colleague#2: Yes, you do.
Female colleague#3: I think you do.
Me: I take a shower then. (embarrassed)

yes, all the time, but it doesn't matter anymore because I don't know anyone. the part that bothers me is when my relatives or their boyfriends or partners purposely insult me or startle me as a "joke". that makes me want to, um, be violent.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-XhUFj4Stk&feature=pyv

Woof...high school...I don't know how I survived that, I only found out about AS 2 years ago...so making it through high school undiagnosed...wow! But, moving on...

When someone else is around it is almost constant because silence is awkward so I try to fill the gap most times. This leads to saying small things but can easily turn into rambling where I start talking about how the sign across the street is a lovely purple and then describing how the sign must have been manufactured or the importance of the colour purple over the centuries or how it's my favourite colour with a whole story attached to it.

Fortunately, I've been able to convince people that I'm just plain goofy...like a comedian. Usually I'm more Robin Williams than Emo Philips so this takes little convincing. This way when I stick my foot in my mouth with a major faux pas, we all have a good laugh even though I was being serious. I've learned that just by being my day-to-day self that I can entertain people, distract people from their own problems, and give them good advice or something to think about...and maybe inform them with trivia/data along the way.

AS has given me more strengths than weaknesses I think...however I'm much more articulate in writing than when I speak because I'm not worried moment-by-moment about how it's being received or if I'm saying something wrong & embarassing.

But I wear what I want, making sure it's comfortable or maybe that I've got layers of clothes on so that I can take some off if it's too hot and be just right if it's chilly outside (or mega air-conditioning indoors). However, the colours & styles have nothing to do with trends...especially if they came from Salvation Army so as to save money for special interests. (Grin) Clothes are just so you're not walking the streets naked...why should I spend $200 on something that people frown on you wearing twice in the same week??? hehehe Actually, my fashion sense isn't THAT bad, but it used to be since I wore what little my parents could afford back in school & high school days...which meant 2 decades behind the times in regards to fashion. This didn't help my situation. Oh and the purple & silver sombrero I got 2 years ago in a thrift store...I wear it sometimes to make people laugh but have never worn it in public for obvious reasons.

I still can't do small-talk though...I stink at it. I forget to ask if little Timmy is improving at his banjo lessons, who was caught wearing white after Labour Day, what's happening on the soaps that day...or whatever it is NT people think is so vital. When I do ask a question though, it's open mouth & insert foot, since I don't always think about how a question will sound or whether it's even appropriate. This lead me to start creating double-entendres or things that could be followed with "...that's what SHE said!" So then if my genuine question cmes out wrong...they think I'm being funny and we all have a chuckle and I get to add "...well you know what I mean."

Comedy doesn't come to all Aspies (I actually enjoy using that name for myself) but for me it smoothes out the rough edges of social interaction. It also keeps the biggest critics at bay because they are all super-serious and judgemental so when confronted by a court jester they find reasons to just leave me alone and leave the area instead of even trying to tear me down.

But when just walking downtown in public on my own (well you know what I mean hehehe) I'm extremely self-conscious and I walk very fast with a high-bouncing stride. This makes it hard to turn invisible & blend in with the crowd the way I wish I could...entertaining people in a group or at work is different than trying to be invisible buying ingredients for one of my special interests (cooking of all styles).

Hmmm I look up and see I've rambled a long while...sorry about that...but hopefully you feel some support for your situation if not a little advice in some of what I've said.

Take care,
Richard

Yes.

I embarrass myself sometimes. Lot of things don't embarrass me so I don't embarrass myself often.

Mumford and sons heal my soul...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x2RKb3VNAOo

that's not the original of the song there.. but still good


* original - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHWsKTSdS74

Yes, I do!! !! !!

I'm sitting here analyzing a situation what happened last week over and over and over in my head, wondering when I first went wrong what people might of thought, and if it was really a big deal or not. Then I keep feeling angry with myself for it.

The trouble with me is I don't particularly like drawing unwanted attention to myself, but sometimes I can't quite deal with my emotions properly, and I non-verbally show my emotions when out in public, and people just can't stopped staring at me for it (yes, it's a sad world after all, but NTs can't help the way they are no more than I can help the way I am).
I was sitting on the bus one day last week (with my favourite bus-driver driving it ), and another girl got on and stood there talking to him, which made me angry inside. Keeping a straight, blank face (like people ''have to'' when they're on their own, otherwise we're considered ''weird''), made me feel worse, because whichever feelings I have inside me need to show up on the outside, otherwise my brain gets a little confused (it can't do multi-emotion). So I started scowling and glaring at the girl, and shifting about in my seat a bit, and muttering very, very quietly to myself (the bus was quite noisy), and this woman kept on looking across at me. Every 10-15 seconds she kept on turning round to look at me (God knows what repeatively turning round and looking at someone is going to really do, but like I said, NTs can't help the way they are - they expect everybody to be perfect), and so now I had gotten her attention, I was getting more and more agitated. Then when I stood up to get off, I could not help myself. I glared so hard at the girl, then spoke nicely to the driver (made the usual friendly smalltalk), then got off. But the girl probably said something about the way I looked at her, and he might have got upset or thought how desperate I'm acting. Now I've probably embarrassed myself. I haven't seen him since, and I'm scared what he's going to be like when I do see him on the bus again.

I just can't help myself though. Surely it's only natural to have feelings and emotions when it comes to love.....I thought that's what NTs want out of me?????! !! !

Anyway - this is just one of many things I do. These sorts of things aren't bad, but they're enough to make me regret it, and then I hate myself for it. It's just that when I'm angry, I don't care at the time. Then I strongly regret it afterwards. Tsk, what a twat I am.

Not anymore.
300mg Venlafaxine + 150mg Bupropion

I am high. And have no shame of myself.

Nope. It's pretty hard to get embarrassed if you really don't care what anyone thinks of you.

Dress up as a fine lady, walk elegantly into a room with a lot of people, sit down, fart loud and enjoy the effect.