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23 Sep 2011, 5:17 am

You hardly ever cry or feel the need to cry. You don't have a burning desire to share your special interests with the feeling of needing to censor yourselves in fear of annoying other WP members, and you have perfect control of your bodily functions. I still don't ant a cure, because a cure is an insult to me. For someone to push the cure on me would be like them asking God, "How dare you make that person the way that you did?"


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23 Sep 2011, 6:25 am

I think God is okay with cures, many ill people pray to god to be well again. You will always have AS, but it can be better if the crying is distressing you. I dont think its good to cry too much

Its not an easy life for so many others too, you are not alone. I cant cry at all, but wish I could sometimes, so we are kinda the same, in a way.

No one wants to know about my special interests either. I hardly tell anyone anything like that.

I found this old WP thread that may offer some strategies

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt19024.html

I hope you manage to cry less Cockneyrebel as I dont think it helps too much, I'm sure its achievable if good stratagems and changes are made



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23 Sep 2011, 7:16 am

to the OP: i don't have perfect control over myself either. and i cry a lot over various things. nobody wants to know about me and mine, either. so you are not suffering alone. you are the leading poster in a forum full of people you have much in common with. and remember, the only person whose opinion about you really matters more than anything else, is in your mirror.



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23 Sep 2011, 7:42 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
You don't have ... the feeling of needing to censor yourselves in fear of annoying other WP members ...


Incorrect.

There's a very good reason why I stay far, far away from the music and movies forums. Heck, even being in the videogame forum is pushing it heavily for me :x


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23 Sep 2011, 8:35 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
You hardly ever cry or feel the need to cry. You don't have a burning desire to share your special interests with the feeling of needing to censor yourselves in fear of annoying other WP members, and you have perfect control of your bodily functions. I still don't ant a cure, because a cure is an insult to me. For someone to push the cure on me would be like them asking God, "How dare you make that person the way that you did?"

You're not alone with the need to cry. I hardly ever cry, but the need to cry is often there.

I also know how it feels to have to bottle a special interest. I get really fascinated by them, and it's still very hard for me to accept that nobody else sees the magic that I do, so I can't share it. All I can do is look for the little bits of my special interests that other people might like...trying to match up the person's own interests with mine, to see where there's an overlap. I'm still not very good at it. I don't look carefully enough at the other person, and of course in a forum it's a whole audience at once, so I can't know who I'm talking to. So I agree it's very frustrating.

I'm lucky to have reasonably good bodily function control, though at my age I don't know how much longer it will be that way.

Sounds like you've been feeling down, CR. Maybe you've been feeling disconnected with WP people too. I hope everything gets better soon.



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23 Sep 2011, 9:04 am

You're right, I am lucky for those things. But if you would like a receptive audience for your interests, you can PM me and unbottle it, I won't mind. Though you might want to be prepared for reciprocity :)



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23 Sep 2011, 9:08 am

I'm sorry you feel this way. I hate it when anyone feels like this. :(


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23 Sep 2011, 9:44 am

I read all these threads about people being annoyed by the aspieness of other members and it's been starting to make me feel unwelcome on WP. I've been dealing with anxiety in all the other areas of my life. I don't need to deal with it on WP.


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23 Sep 2011, 9:45 am

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You're right, I am lucky for those things. But if you would like a receptive audience for your interests, you can PM me and unbottle it, I won't mind. Though you might want to be prepared for reciprocity :)


Thank you. You seem like a really good friend. :)


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23 Sep 2011, 10:07 am

Hi

Your posts always make me smile, I like the fact that you talk about your interests.

It would be a sad planet without you.

I love the certain bands also, so like australien, if you want to pm me with stuff, then go ahead!

Hope you feel better, am thinking a hug over the airwaves for you.



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23 Sep 2011, 10:09 am

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CockneyRebel wrote:
You hardly ever cry or feel the need to cry. You don't have a burning desire to share your special interests with the feeling of needing to censor yourselves in fear of annoying other WP members, and you have perfect control of your bodily functions. I still don't ant a cure, because a cure is an insult to me. For someone to push the cure on me would be like them asking God, "How dare you make that person the way that you did?"

You're not alone with the need to cry. I hardly ever cry, but the need to cry is often there.

I also know how it feels to have to bottle a special interest. I get really fascinated by them, and it's still very hard for me to accept that nobody else sees the magic that I do, so I can't share it. All I can do is look for the little bits of my special interests that other people might like...trying to match up the person's own interests with mine, to see where there's an overlap. I'm still not very good at it. I don't look carefully enough at the other person, and of course in a forum it's a whole audience at once, so I can't know who I'm talking to. So I agree it's very frustrating.

I'm lucky to have reasonably good bodily function control, though at my age I don't know how much longer it will be that way.

Sounds like you've been feeling down, CR. Maybe you've been feeling disconnected with WP people too. I hope everything gets better soon.


I have been feeling a little down and disconnected lately. I talked to the doctor about my anxiety and all she did was prescribe 10 Addison and sent me along my merry way to Mental Health. I talked to the emergency contact worker there, and asked who to make my next appointment with, the next time I come. She said that I'm the best looking person that's been referred, and that I'm bright and articulate and that I won't be needing their services on the account of my good looks and intelligence.

At least I've decided to do it right this time, instead of doing it the way that I did in 2007 when I didn't reach out at all, and I turned against society and turned all punkish. I'm going to have to go to the Health Food Store and see what the owner will be able to sell me, that can help alleviate my anxiety symptoms so that I will be calm enough to have the ability to eat breakfast and lunch again, instead of drinking those meal replacements. I've lost 15 lbs in 3 weeks. I could stand to lose the weight, but that's a bit fast. A lot of my clothes are gradually starting to hang on me and I can't really afford new clothes, because I'm not getting enough hours at work. I'm wearing my "skinny" trousers right now, because they're the only ones that will stay on. The lack of appetite will get me reaching my goal sooner, but where am I going to get the money for clothes, if only my basic needs are met and my extra income goes to incontinence products? I feel that the right people should only win those lotteries - the people who really need the money. I really need the money.


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23 Sep 2011, 10:21 am

I also get really anxious around this time of the year, because I know that my $400 home insurance is coming up. I've been doing a much better job saving my change and budgeting my money. I have $400 in the bank right now. I know that I will be getting two $100 paycheques from my job and that my $180 worth of HST money is going to go through, at the end of next month. If I'm really careful and I plan to be, I could have $750 in my bank account when my insurance stub comes in the mail. It would be nice to have the $350 so that I could buy Christmas gifts for my family and Kinks merchandise for myself as Christmas draws near.


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23 Sep 2011, 10:25 am

Here's something I call a fact.. If they can't stand Aspies or Autists, in a web sight that's made for Aspies and Autists, I can only assume they have issues for being here.

Ok, I can see why you would be upset getting insults in your face. I was upset recently. I don't take pills though. I've havn't seen your posts in a while.



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23 Sep 2011, 10:25 am

SabbraCadabra wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
You don't have ... the feeling of needing to censor yourselves in fear of annoying other WP members ...


Incorrect.

There's a very good reason why I stay far, far away from the music and movies forums. Heck, even being in the videogame forum is pushing it heavily for me :x


I also stay far away from the music forum. Could you imagine the threads that I would start there? I don't even have to make examples of the titles, because I'm sure that you could imagine them word to word, the way I lack a filter and spill the beans about my love for The Kinks some days.


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23 Sep 2011, 10:29 am

Bonafan wrote:
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Your posts always make me smile, I like the fact that you talk about your interests.

It would be a sad planet without you.

I love the certain bands also, so like australien, if you want to pm me with stuff, then go ahead!

Hope you feel better, am thinking a hug over the airwaves for you.


Thank you for the kind words. Just reading your response has made me decide to stay on WP for the day. I was going to go on another aspie site, but I've decided to stick around. :)


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23 Sep 2011, 10:32 am

MakaylaTheAspie wrote:
I'm sorry you feel this way. I hate it when anyone feels like this. :(


Thank you for sharing your feelings. It shows that you really care about me. I've noticed over my past 7 years on WP that there are people who truly care and there are people who don't care at all and they make it very clear to the person who is in need at the moment. I'm glad that you care, and it makes me feel like a wanted person here on WP. :)


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