Forgetting to shower etc.

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I keep forgetting to shower/brush my teeth/wear a new set of clothes/brush or wash my hair/clean the kitchen or my room etc. Does anyone else forget to do things that NTs do every day naturally?

I'll forget to do things like that. I think part of it is that they're not things that I can just do and be done with, they are necessarily more involved than they are for most NTs.

For example, for showering, I need to plan for at least an hour before I need to be anywhere if I'm going to shower, despite the fact that I take quick showers, because I can't put on clothing while my body is still wet at all. It's not a thing to just do when I have time, its a thing that is more involved than that.

For clothing, I need to figure out what is comfortable that day, rather than make a decision about how I want to look.

Cleaning is always a big deal, because I need to make sure that I don't have to face too strong of scents for too long.

These things are far more involved than people give them credit for.

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Here too.

I hate showering when there are other people in the house. It's stressful when the kids need something from me, or someone else has to use the toilet or something. Plus using a towel to dry off drives me nuts. I like to be able to air dry, and I can't just walk around the house all naked and wet without drawing attention to myself. (and it's selfish of me to be naked around dh if I don't want to fool around. Even though he know's logically it's not a come-on, he gets all riled up anyway.) There are almost ALWAYS other people in the house...so I forget or put it off until I start to feel grimy. My hair doesn't get oily for like 4 days, and I don't have much BO so I can go a while before I feel like I actually NEED a shower. When I was single and childless, I showered almost every day. It was a calm, relaxing, centering kind of process for me and I loved it. I really miss that.

Maybe I was *that* poor for too long or something, but being able to wear a fresh, clean outfit every day feels like this incredibly indulgent luxury to me. Sometimes I do just to feel like that, like sometimes I go through phases that I wear makeup or jewelry for a week or something. Our house rule is that if an item isn't visibly dirty and doesn't smell, it's clean enough. Luckily, dh doesn't notice much that goes on around him, so he doesn't care. Both the kids are AS too, so the house kind of runs AS-friendly and dh mostly just goes with the flow.

We use almost all natural cleaners, a lot of which are home made. Strong scents and harsh chemicals cause problems for the kids n me.

I made this whole system for the kids n me to do our parts with the cleaning. For dh it's like no big deal, second nature, to just notice that something needs cleaning and clean it. So, the kids and I have our thing we do, and we mostly miss anything that isn't spelled out in that system...and dh picks up and big chores that get missed. The house is a little cluttery, but is a pretty even comparison to the NT families we know that keep a nice home. (this has taken me over 10yrs to accomplish, so if I sound a little braggy...it's because I am).

I used to remember things like this, but lately I keep forgetting due to being busy doing other things.

I forget to brush my teeth, mostly because I've associated it with a routine (going to bed time) that I don't always execute. When I'm up past a certain hour, I feel a little guilty and it's a process to go to bed; I often think more of just going to bed rather than what's involved in going to bed!

Otherwise I don't shower or don't change clothes just because I'm lazy. (Learned it from when I would stay over at friends' houses for more than 1 day in a row! Still haven't done anything crazy like the rest of 'em has, like staying an entire week, but still. Hahaha.)

I only forget to brush my teeth in the morning because I no longer go to school, in which it was part of my routine after having breakfast and nowadays I'm not hungry until lunch time because I get up so late now.

I also only take a shower every few days, when my hair starts feeling oily, dirty and gross or if I'm going somewhere the next day like shopping, a doctors appointment, or visiting family.

Yeah, I have a tendency to forget to put on deodorant most of the time, and since showering tends to be an uncomfortable affair, I guess that makes it easier for me to forget to do that too. I've bought an unscented deodorant to try to make it less effort to wear the stuff, but now I just actually forget to do it as part of a morning routine. I also have quite a hard time remembering to brush my teeth, but I think my hit rate with that one is a bit higher than everything else.

I haven't worn deodorant for two years now.

I'm forgetting to eat right now.

I forget everything eventually. I have alarms to remind me to eat, although I haven't set anything up for other issues.

I get up early in the morning, giving me time to pick the right clothes for that day, which differs enormously. Then I follow a routine which is thesame every morning, which I also have written out for when I get interrupted. I usually shower in the evenings so I do not need to dress afterwards and my hair can dry during the night.

I never have forgotten anything like that, and I'm a hygiene freak, and am OCD about showers and tooth brushing, etc. Sometimes I let dishes accumulate in the sink for a couple days, but I do not allow anything unsanitary, or leave trash lying around the house. I do allow some disorder and untidiness in the house; papers not filed, and objects sitting out because I haven't figured out where to keep them, etc.

Charles