good book about getting manipulated by other people?

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12 Oct 2011, 10:13 am

Hi there,

do you know some good book how to identify manipulative people?

thanks,
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12 Oct 2011, 12:36 pm

I seem to be an expert at attracting manipulative people, seems to be an aspie trait.


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12 Oct 2011, 1:07 pm

The best books on this subject are by George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D.

#1: In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People
#2: Character Disturbance: the phenomenon of our age

He also has the blog ---> Dealing With Manipulative People.

Here are links to amazon.com to read reviews about these great books and order them if you like:

In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People
Character Disturbance: the phenonmenon of our age

There is a good chance a library may have at least a copy of In Sheep's Clothing, if not also Character Disturbance.

I labeled these --> Survival Books <-- on the site for Aspies of the Round Table for good reasons. I can't think of anything more important for Aspies to learn than to be aware of how people manipulate others. Because Aspies tend to be "what you see is what you get" kind of people (i.e., childlike), we're more prone than neurotypicals to be manipulated.


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12 Oct 2011, 1:21 pm

The easiest way to spot them is if they want your attention for any price. Also they can suddenly switch when they finally got your sympathy for example, to start triggering your attention towards something else.

I dont notice instantly that I have one in front of me, but when these shifts in situation occur I wake up.

Its much easier to see if somebody else is being manipulated. The whole thing is too broad anyway because people are also manipulating each other without knowing it, because they need the attention. It just depends on how much control they have, or try to have.