Not Getting Scared

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Is this me or just an aspie thing where I can't get scared by horror movies or anything in general?

It's like someone regardless if their NT or not says "That movie was really scary" and I watch that movie and sit there with a straight face, and once the movie is finished, I was not even scared. Sure it makes me jump, but that doesn't even remotely scare me.

I cannot get scared by anything really. Not even nightmares scare me, scary stories, scary stuff really or even things like the fear of death for me or family. It would be sad, if one of my family members would die, but I'm not that scared easily.

Violence doesn't make me scared, seeing someone dead on TV or in real life (although I doubt it) doesn't make me scared. It would make me go "woah" but that's about it.

Even other things like 9/11 make me scared, and nuclear bombs and armageddon and death etc. etc. etc.

I think it's because I've never been in enough scary situations to know what it feels like to be scared.

Anyone else like this? Not even remotely scared by anything?

I never get scared by anything - I have done some crazy things in the past because of this. Like climing 11 floors on the outside of a building to the balcony of my parents flat when I was drunk once, and then back down again as the balcony doors were locked! (I had locked myself out, forgot my keys!)

Nah not really.. been in alligator infested waters, car crashes, held at gunpoint, etc and my usual thought is suddenly realizing "Hey this is dangerous.. hmm.. dont try this at home kids" followed by a second or two of stifled inappropriate giggling.

Fear is an emotional response and aspies are notorious for responding in a logical manner first.

I get scared by some things.. but things that normally scare people don't usually scare me as badly.
i am not sure how to explain this so i will give an exmple
example
-almost get hit by a car while crossing the street. i saw the car get pretty close but it didn't scare me...
-seeing people killed on tv or videogame (never saw in real life) doesn't scare me...

other things do scare me though like if my friends or family are in danger.

Startled is possible, but scared doesn't come easily to me.

Through car crashes and other "nasty" places, logical first, and emotional much much later, if at all. Some shakes when the adrenalin wears off.

I don't do panic at all.

I'm generally very fearful, and in stressful situations I can get paranoid. I've always been afraid of flying and now don't ever want to. I'm often very stressed when I drive.
Certain social situations don't scare me where NT peers are terrified. Like going to the movies alone. Many women find that unheard of or very embarrassing. Dining in fancy restaurants alone. I was surprised when a lawyer friend told me "You have balls" because I could go and apply for a job on the spot, without ever calling ahead and/or sending a letter. I can walk in and ask, "Are you hiring?" and hand over my resume and plainly ask about when I can return and interview. It makes sense to me, because they don't have the chance to "weed me out" because I'm right there. They see that I want the job and that I will come back and follow up. I have had on the spot, sit down interviews with places that aren't hiring at all but will remember me.

I'm scared about the future, nothing else. Strange...that while I have no future...

There aren't many movies that can scare me so when they do, I'm impressed. I startle easily but I'm usually braced for it in movies so it doesn't work well.

I'm scared by a lot of things that most aren't though. I have a phobia about creatures in the water like sharks but basically my imagination runs wild when I'm in the water, especially if I'm alone and it happens some even in swimming pools. I freak out a little from noisy cars or especially buses driving by when I'm on the sidewalk or walking down the road. My vivid imagination creates horrific images of what it would feel like to be hit by a car at a high speed. I tend to be nervous crossing the street for the same reason and I'm even a little nervous in parking lots worried someone will not see me and back out quickly as I'm walking by. I get nervous in crowds and cities in general because I worry about crime. I was in San Francisco recently and my stress level seemed unusually high. The sheer density of people on the sidewalks was bothering me.

i get scared in movies yeah of course...but try this next time your scared block your ears its not what you see...its what you hear that scares you.
try it..its truthfull

Kind of like aspies and motorcycles?

are you following me again?

Of course.. Im waiting for you to get used to it and let your guard down then Ill pounce and they'll find body parts all over town

This post reminds me how things that terrify most NT kids didn't faze me one bit. Here are some examples.

Monsters under my bed. I always knew there was nothing under there, except my slippers and a whole lot of dust.
The dark. I had no problem with sleeping in a dark room. I also founds nighttime a lot more pleasant than daytime.
Water. Even during my first swimming lesson, I went into the pool without one bit of fear.
Strangers. Most of them were nicer to me than people I knew, so the concept of fearing strangers seemed questionable.
Ghosts. The only thing I felt while walking past a cemetary was a mild sense of pity for the departed.

I'm cautious and fearless at the same time. Maybe that's why I'm so good at chess. :p

Oh, not me. I was really small and I remember my dad tried to put me at ease by explaining that it was shallow enough for me to stand. He said it's shallow on this side and it gets deeper on the other end. I screamed like a banshee when he started to let go of me. I still remember what was going on in my head. I created an image of the floor of the pool in my head and it was sharply slanted like a slide, i.e. shallow on this end and deep on the other end. I thought if my dad let go I would slide down to the bottom of the other end.

After I dealt with an early childhood phobia of mummies (by gradually desensitizing myself to them--I still get an adrenaline surge when I see one out of its coffin and unwrapped, but I can deal with it) I've ben afraid of very little.

There are the defensive reactions; if I was being bullied and in danger of getting beaten up I'd cower and cover my face just like anyone else would. And there are the startle reactions; if a car honks at me or there's a sudden loud noise or something I don't expect, I jump and get an adrenaline rush. And there is still some "spook factor" associated with dead bodies in general, though I know logically that there is nothing a dead body can do (except spread disease) that could hurt me.

However, I don't have illogical fears; if I see a horror movie, I generally wonder at the stupidity of the characters. They generally panic and ignore simple rules of what someone should do when in danger: Stay together, think clearly, call the police. But they don't think clearly; they scream, run around like ninnies, and get themselves killed by whatever monster or curse that's coming after them.

I have not been in very many real-life dangerous situations, other than the bullying and a car accident that happened when I was nine. My mother was going about 30 mph on a newly resurfaced gravel road; and we skidded off the road and flipped over onto the roof of the car.

I found myself hanging upside down from the car's seat belt; and my mother was in complete shock. I thought to myself, "Hmm, we've had an accident; I'm not hurt; Mom seems fine too." So I told Mom, "Come on, let's get out of here," and we crawled out through the windows (which were fortunately open).

I didn't cry or make any sort of fuss; as it later turned out I had actually been injured, gotten a rather bad bump on the head which would have been a concussion if I'd hit my head harder (or was a very mild one). My mother came away with no injuries at all, except those we both got from crawling through brambles on our way out of the car.

I also did not panic when I was thrown out of the house at age 8 by an annoyed stepfather; I walked around the neighborhood, dressed in pajamas and socks, for two hours before my mother found me and brought me back home.

Running away from home at age 14, after my stepfather threatened to kill me, was also accomplished with more logical action than fear; I walked the five miles to my grandmother's house, where I stayed until my stepfather calmed down.

Maybe we Aspies "aren't afraid when we ought to be"; but this also means that, if we are good at thinking clearly and logically (as we usually are), we can handle dangerous situations better than our NT counterparts. A golden mean would be to have both the strength, speed, and endurance that adrenaline gives, but also to be able to think clearly... I imagine this is what paramedics, police officers, and other emergency personnel learn to do.