Aspie hypocrisy (NOT a trolling post, trust me!)

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Guess it's my turn to ask a question for a change.

Subject line is half-intentionally designed to attract attention, but not as controversial as you might think, because it's about me, not about Aspies in general.

I feel a little hypocritical about something I do on the forums here. If I open a post, and it's pretty succinct (short and to the point), and it interestes me, I'll answer it.

If I open a post that seems simple enough, but the OP has posted some long drawn out article I have to read before I'll fully understand what the OP is looking for, I'll close it immediately. I don't have the patience for it.

This post being an exception, most of the threads I start are exactly like the ones I don't answer. Long, require a lot of reading, concentration and thought, and demanding of the reader.

Makes me feel a little hypocritical expecting others to answer posts I wouldn't answer myself.

EDIT: This (long windedness) is an Aspie/ADDer trait of mine, that I want others to put up with, and get annoyed when they don't, yet I don't put up with it well myself. Thus, I consider this my own "Aspie hypocrisy."

Anyone else notice similar traits in themselves? Traits in other Aspies you don't have the patience for, that you have yourself, and get annoyed if they don't have the patience for yours?

I'm very hypocritical with my aspie traits.

I wish I had as much patience for others' traits that I have for myself.

Yes. People taking things literal gets on my nerves or them not getting stuff. The stimming annoys me too. Them getting all anxious in something so they want to leave. I can't think of anything else.

The rest I have no idea with they are aspie traits or not.

I try and put up with it though because I do it myself. It be very hypocritical of me to tell them to stop it because I know it doesn't work like that. The stimming I can stop but then I start up again if I am not thinking about it but I am too afraid of telling others to quit that stim and do another one that won't annoy me. I also can't stand people who keep talking about the same thing over and over that bothers them so much but yet I do that myself. My own online friends listen to my crap and I keep it off the forums so I don't look like an attention seeker and a whiner and looking for sympathy. Since I have a hard time tolerating it, I try not to do it and will try and stop if my own online friends will tell me to shut up about it. I will just to go another person to whine to. I know this is the OCD thinking I'm doing because I just can't get it out of my head and can't stop thinking about it. Sometimes it leaks onto forums I go to because I have no one to whine to about.



I don't think I can stand being with someone who is a lot like me. It's too depressing anyway to be with them.

I cant answer questions that start with: Are you...

Especially not, if the option to answer is: never

That means, I will have to be a little bit of a hypocrite sometimes, as it belongs to humanity.

Anyone who answers "never" is a hypocrite!

Oh yes. It's because it's so easy to be blind of my own motivations and impact. For example, I once bemoaned the selfish intentions of others, before realizing how much I was motivated by myself in the things I pursued. I felt an interesting sense of peace at that.

I can't think of any examples off the top of my head, but I know that I can be hypocritical. I have "aha" moments, when I've been complaining about something ad infinitum, where I stop myself and say, "although....maybe I should shut up now....because I do exactly the same thing."

i sometimes do teh same thing you do.

It's in everyone's interests to make posts succinct and/or interesting.

Happily, there's usually someone out there that does have the patience and interest to read and respond to the threads I don't

I am another offender who offends.

But I like reading long posts written Aspie Style, and I write them myself. It's the linked articles that I don't read, because I know that they are likely to be media crapieces.

don't read long post
don't read long replies
don't write long post
define lone
Im bored now

What I don't like are long, rambling posts that muddle the point. Long posts are fine. I do read long posts and sometimes I can make it to the end.

If the post is lengthy and rambles I skip over the rambling parts. After reading I can miss a few tidbits of information, but rambling requires more patience than I am allowed.

Some long posts I really appreciate.

i try to make all my posts as succinct as i know how. but sometimes some folks [including myself] have such complex issues to get off their chests, that to present a sufficient description of them requires more space than some other folk are comfortable with. in these cases it simply wouldn't do to present them either in incomplete form or sequentially in multiple posts. sorry.

I dont mind long posts as long as the OP uses paragraphing...if it is one wall of text... my eyes about get crossed trying to read it.

of course I can be a champion of long posts, but I try to use paragraphing. I cant say I am never hypocritical but it is a human characteristic that I dont like thus I try to avoid. The only aspect I cant shake is being judgmental of my father's religion because it makes him judgmental towards anyone who is not an evangelical christian. I cant help it, but it is hypocritical.

Jojo

I have contempt for those who post claims that have no supporting evidence, yet I sometimes slip and post something that, upon reflection, is just as baseless, if not more so.

Being capable of critical thought is a source of pride for me, yet sometimes I wish I could just present a valid claim without also having to present all the necessary proofs as well.

This is aside from repeatedly had the experience of having presented both a valid claim and its supporting evidence to people that are either too stupid or too ignorant (or both) to ever understand why the evidence supports the claim in the first place; with the end result being that I may as well have presented it all to a troop of gibbering baboons - metaphorically speaking, of course.

On the forums for the mmorpg I play it's not unusual for people that make long posts to get this as a response. "tl;dr". That stands for "too long; didn't read. Also if people don't make paragraphs they'll make some comment about how China called and wants their wall back.

I get annoyed by stimming. Things like tapping, clicking fingernails, shaking legs, and humming. I try more now to just ignore it. I don't really have those stims because I tend to be still and quiet but from what I've read I did some stimming type things when I was a kid and still have some I do. I remember lining up containers of water on the porch and pouring them into each other when I was a kid or making the same puzzle over and over again so I'd have something to do with my hands when I watch tv. Also I like popping pimples and plucking hairs.