What do I make of this situation?

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Ok so before my class I noticed this really hot girl I was attracted to that took the elevator with me to the same floor. We didn't really talk but just said hello and smiled, but then after class I noticed her walking to her car and I was moved to hit on her(usually a feeling I don't get). I sometimes get these urges to just approach women even though I know that I will almost 100% be rejected. I have no idea why it sounds stupid I know. I guess it is just some cynical social experiment for me only just to confirm my place in the world. So that when I am in fact rejected or I creep out a girl, I can just say I told myself so. Anyway, I approach this girl and I actually say this: "Oh hey your the same girl I saw before class." Then she replied that is most likely because our classes start and end at around the same times and I of course agree, but I just mentioned that I usually don't pass by the same person before and after class. Then I ask her if she would like to hangout sometime, but I am totally awkward like I always am so she becomes awkward too and kind of pushes me away with her body language at first and mentions that she has a boyfriend that is overprotective. Right after she says this she can see that I have stopped talking and walking next to her and I guess she realized that I gave up hitting on her and then she did the strangest thing...she actually stopped walking too and then gave me her number. I am assuming she only gave me her number because she felt bad on some level for giving off such a cold reaction towards me and pretended to be somewhat interested to kind of let me down easy. Then I said: "Well you gave me your number, but you tell me your bf is overprotective..."Then she said: "We will see what happens." This kind of statement bothers me on many levels. First off, what exactly does she mean by this and why did she give me her number? Does she possibly mean we will possibly meet up and hangout if things don't go well with her bf or if she somehow can hangout with me without him finding out OR is her statement more of a threat such as: Let's see what my overprotective bf will think and how he will react to this kind of thing? I have been in a very similar conversation with a girl before, so ladies please explain what the heck just happened?

OK well she didn't reply to my text, so I called and the voice mail message was a guy's voice just lovely. I am assuming that is her bf and that either means she gave me his number to be a b**** or her bf's voice is her customized voice mail message? If hitting on women is a normal thing and men don't know that certain women aren't single until they mention and I even stopped hitting on her after she mentioned that...then why in the world would a woman do something so evil? Why would she actually give me her bf's number? To try to have him beat me up just because I hit on her? Wow if this is the case...this world might not be worth living in.

Well I got a string of response texts from a guy...so that was either her boyfriend or some guy she knows. Well since I never gave her my number and the guy doesn't know me I just played dumb and said sorry I have the wrong number. The problem here is now that girl knows what I look like and goes to school right around the same time I do and her boyfriend or guy friend mentioned in a text to me that he also goes to the same college. Now I have to worry about her being a b**** once again and pointing me out to him one day. What a nightmare. This is a perfect reason why I usually don't hit on girls. This situation is just ridiculously getting out of hand now.

This is a really annoying situation...can someone please post a few replies???
I'm really depressed about this and some support on here would help me move on.

I'd like to support you, so I'll send you some virtual hugs, but so far as practical advice, I realized after the first answer I gave that I'm just too old to give you a _good_ answer. Dating and pre-mating patterns just aren't the same as when it was a situation I was dealing with -- I date from way before cell phones or kids texting to each other, for just one thing. A phone call was an entirely different thing.

I'm on your side, but then I'm sure your grandmother is too!

I'm not a girl but it sound's like she was just being a b****. Try move on and not worry about it, it's unlikely anything will happen. It's difficult to tell, but in my experience, if a girl is being coy, don't waste your time - it usually means no, but I don't want to hurt your feelings. Good job for having the balls to talk to her in the first place - I distinctly remember thinking "f*** it" before I made a move on my girlfriend. Although it usually doesn't work (how many girls do people talk to and how many girlfriends do people have on average? It's a small percentage), you just have to keep trying and remember that it is not personal. All the long-term couples I know have strong (and usually geeky) common interests. I also know people who can talk all day and are very sincere too that have had no lasting relationships. It's hard for everyone so don't spend too much time beating yourself up about it. One day you will talk to someone and it will just click