"Get shoes that tie but you can slip on and off without untying them." - This is what I do, although I can tie my shoes since I was 5.
Form a loop with your two fingers at the left hand, wrap around your fingers holding the loop the other strand (the right, by two fingers on your right hand) clock wise, beginning towards yourself, then slid under this the second loop from right to left that you form with the remainder of the right-strand (after a full circle of wrapping around the fingers holding the first loop). You have to grab this slid-under second loop by the fingers of your left hand. The trick is to release the first loop with your left-hand fingers and move your index finger closer to your thumb skipping one strand. Now you have two loops, all you have to do is pull them apart, holding all the 4 strands (one loop has two strands at the tie).
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Another non-English speaking - DX'd at age 38
"Aut viam inveniam aut faciam." (Hannibal) - Latin for "I'll either find a way or make one."