Being Misunderstood

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If you are talking with me and I suddenly start to walk or run away, chances are I am not being rude or angry, it’s because something unexpected has come up and it needs my attention like right now ( It is not possible to explain my reasons in 15 seconds).

If I am working and I am asking you a bunch of questions about a particular assignment, it is my way of trying to have a meeting of the minds with you on exactly how you want something done. It is my way of learning by zeroing in on what you want. It is not anxiety.

If I am working on a particular assignment and don’t respond quickly when you call me, it’s because I am in a particular train of thought on trying to solve a problem and seeing what the parameters are concerning that problem or I may be preoccupied with another task and don't want to make errors.

If there is a conflict with you over a particular subject chances are I am approaching it from a different perspective or try to look for an answer or a resolution beneath what is apparent on the surface. I may also have unique knowledge of the matter that you may not be aware of.

If I join organizations or groups that are out of the mainstream it’s because this is one of the ways an Aspie will gain social experience and learn how to deal with people. It doesn’t necessarily mean I agree with their ideology 100%.

If I am resistant to criticism, chances are I know I am wrong and am trying to deal with it. If you claim it is for my own good even though you know I deeply resent it chances are I already know that if the shoe was on the other foot, you would feel the same way I do.
I don’t need kid gloves when it comes to criticism but most likely I would like to know the exact reason for something so I can understand it.

If I interrupt you while you are trying to tell me something, it’s because there is a particular train of thought I want to express while it is still fresh in my mind.

If I try to solve a problem backwards (i.e. – start at the answer then work back towards the problem or question), it is because my mind may be used to learning in a certain way. Sometimes we attempt unconventional methods in problem solving because this is a method on how we learn.

Some of the nonverbal language(body language) that we display may not necessarily be directed towards you. It may be directed towards ourselves because we may be having a past experience or conversation within ourselves.

If we talk to ourselves, we are not necessarily losing touch with reality or hallucinating. We may do this to work through particular events or problems in our life.

its opposite towards me I am talking and NT people let phone calls interrupt me standing there in person and other people show up and the ignore me in mid word-I walk up to people I know to say hi and before I can even say hi anther person walks up and grabs their attention immediately and ignore mre so I start walking away and then after about 5 minutes they are yell over to me asking me where I went.