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I went to my first ever sleepover. To be honest, it wasn't too bad; even though I went just because of social decorum, and if I didn't go my friend threatened to "strangle me." There were the odd weird moments; I got overwhelmed when I first entered the house and everyone greeted me, so for half an hour afterward I sat slightly out of the social circle making the odd comment no-one listened to. Also, one girl commented I had no social skills and another girl likened me to Mr Bean.
Anyhoo, the problem came when we settled down to sleep. It was 3.00 am and I expected everyone to pull an all-nighter, but people did actually fall asleep rather quickly. I didn't sleep at all. I've come to realise something; if I'm not in my own bed, I won't sleep. Not even in hotels. I have a double duvet for a single bed, and I sort of put one leg underneath it, and cuddle the fold. Even at home I won't fall asleep for 2-3 hours after my head hits the pillow. Do you have sleeping issues, and can you sleep when not at home?
I've been disorientated and emotional all day, and my parents have just yelled at me.

I had sleeping issues like that at first, but eventually I just got over it cause I had to sleep in different locations a lot as time went on.

I wouldn't sleep well in someone else's house or apartment, too much "personal" stuff, I don't like to be too close to people and their stuff. But I have no problems with "impersonal" locations such as motels, as long as they're comfortable otherwise: quiet, no bright lantern outside the window, no weird smells. I love camping too.

BTW, if someone compared me to Mr.Bean I'd take that as a compliment

Sleepovers have always been a disaster for me. Don't even ask.

I've always hated going to other people's houses for sleepovers. It goes beyond my comfort level. I also hate when people overstay their welcome at my house.

Sleepovers are very overwhelming for me. I can never sleep in a strange place, and the lack of sleep adds to the anxiety. When I return home, I scream into my pillow for a while to relieve some of the bottled-inside stress. I then make up for the lost sleep soon after. No place like home, eh?

Growing up, I was okay with sleepovers, but I would've much preferred to not go. I honestly don't understand the appeal. You have to sleep in someone else's house in a bed that is never comfortable (or sometimes on the floor), you're deprived of sleep, you can't shower in the morning (which I require to not feel disgusting all day), and there's never anything appetizing for breakfast. (Or if you want to shower you have to bring all your stuff with you, and a towel, or else you have to use someone else's towel, which like the bed is never comfortable). Also, I always wake up at about 7 or 8 am, no matter when we all go to sleep. So while everyone else is passed out until noon (something I have never managed to do), I'm laying awake starving, hoping that there will be more than just disgusting cereal for breakfast. Conversely, I have no problem at all sleeping in hotels.

Yesterday one of my friends invited me to a sleepover held by some of her other friends. I was kind of confused because we're both in our 20s, and she's married. I thought I was finally done with that stuff . So I tried to decline without my disgust being that obvious, and of course I was pestered as to why, why, WHY would I not want to sleep in a stranger's house when I have a perfectly good one to sleep in, complete with boyfriend and comfortable bedding. So I basically explained what I wrote above, and just got a bunch of faces staring back at me and some "wow, what is your problem"-type comments, but I don't really care. I'm not going, so victory is mine!

I have similar problems to the OP. I actually slept better when I was younger. Now I only sleep well at home, and that's not guaranteed.

Can't sleep in hotels at all at least for the first night, likewise relatives' houses etc. sometimes this improves if I stay somewhere for several nights, but if I'm stressed, say it's a 3 night hotel stay for a work related course, I might not sleep at all and get more zombiefied as the course goes on. Then I fall out with people.

I was never once able to successfully go through with a sleepover at someone else's house when I was a kid. I tried many times but would always end up crying and having my parents come pick me up - the separation anxiety/change of routine was just too overwhelming.

Even now, though, I hate it and will avoid it.