Did It take to longer than most To discover some emotions?

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For example, guilt, jelousy, what it feels like to miss somone, or be happy for somone else when they achived somthing good.
I Diddn't know what it felt like to be jelous untill very recently I never understood why you should be faithful to somone.
I diddn't miss anyone untill I was quite old, I don't think I loved my mum untill I was about 10 and even then I diddn't miss her If I went away.
Never felt guilty for anything I did, I felt shame, but thats somthing different, as long as I got away with somthing I felt nothing.
So guys did you have this problem, or still do?

I still really struggle with emotions. Although I can name loads of emotions, I do not know what they feel like. I know what jealousy is for example, and I may have had it, but I have never identified an emotion which is jealousy. I can only really identify happy, sad and angry. Obviously I know it is not as straight forward as this, but when I am feeling lots of different emotions I pinpoint them into the three categories. I should probably have some therapy or something but theres been loads of cuts here

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I have HFA, ADHD, OCD & Tourette syndrome. I love animals, especially my bunnies and hamster. I skate in a roller derby team (but I'll try not to bite )

Not me. I've been aware of my emotions from a very young age.

I understand what situations an emotion might be felt in, and I'm pretty sure I feel most of them, but while I'm feeling an emotion I can't tell what it is. If somebody says "What are you feeling?" I genuinely have no idea. I usually guess what my emotion is based on what situation I'm in and how I'm reacting to it. I'm very in tune with the basics like happy, upset, angry and scared but it's the other more complicated emotions I'm bad at identifying in myself. I usually get it after a while but unlike my friends who can identify almost instantly what they're feeling, I have to think about it for a while.

I recently had deep feelings for another person and they didn't for me as evidenced by the that I have been hanging out with them for over a year trying to dispell their problem with "age difference" and they go off and give it up after one date to a person only 3 years younger than me-then the exteme hurt and other feelings-it was tough-feeling can grow gradually like developing feelings for another person and can hit you over the head like after what that person did to me.

I'm with Squirsh. I'm VERY emotional, but I have a hard time figuring out what I'm feeling. It takes me a while, and it's sometimes hard to do, especially if what I'm feeling isn't 'appropriate'.

I remember as a kid, it took longer for me to understand emotions more than most kids. I remember watching some children's shows when I was nine and not knowing what "annoying" or "jealous" meant...I was genuinely confused.

Jealousy is definitely one I've had "issues" with.

I had a really bad childhood in some ways & I was very withdrawn & kept a lot of my feelings bottled up. I think I felt a limited range & strength of some emotions especially the more positive ones; I had a Schizoid Personality in my late teens. I got very close to a girl when I was 20 because we had some very unique things in common along with similar interest & she broke down the emotional wall I had built up. My emotions came flooding out in a wide range & a very strong strength; I appeared to have Borderline Personality disorder. I suffered a sever depression when things fell apart between us & I spent a lot of time sense posting about my emotions trying to analyze & understand them. I'm completely over my depression now but I'm a lot more sensitive than I was before that whole thing began; I think i feel a more normal range of emotions now & I think some are stronger for me than they may be for the average normal people. I have a much better understanding of my emotions now but I sometimes get caught up in my emotions & don't analyze them till after the moment is past

Considering that I'm having difficulty analyzing myself to discover if the answer is yes or no I'd assume the answer would be yes.

I find that I am still learning the more complex emotions. Because I exert some control over how much I feel, being somewhat neutral has always been easy, but I still find emulating many of the emotions difficult. I still do not understand loneliness, but I imagine that is probably a combination of loss and general anxiety. I think I am starting to get faster when it comes to displaying emotions during conversation, but I still have to consider my intonation, random hand gestures (and disguised stimming), pressure, pulse, and appropriate facial expression, so it is going to be a long figurative journey.

I experienced emotions from a young age like I got separation anxiety, I got jealous when my brother was born. I felt anger and hatred so I always seeked revenge on my brothers. I did miss my mother when she be gone because I never got along with baby sitters so I would miss her because I felt safe with her. I couldn't wait until she get home. I did also cry too. I cried a lot when I was a kid because I was sensitive but I got even more sensitive when my hormones changed so I was put on birth control.


Now it seems like I hardly feel anything. I also think bullying may have done it so I learned to hide my feelings and learned to not care about what they say and me trying to deal with changes at work so I used to suppress my feelings and ignore them and pretend they don't exist so I can deal with the change and not have meltdowns and panic attacks. Plus Mom used to get mad at me for crying so she tell me to stop crying like a two year old so I used to bottle them up and cry in private or just hold them in. Plus whenever I seemed to express myself, mom always get mad at me and other people. Gosh no wonder I have a hard time with expressing my emotions now.


I was in high school when I discovered I have a hard time with feelings. I thought I did fine with them and understood them. I didn't know i was supposed to feel them all the time. When I express my feelings, he tell me those are thoughts. It was hard to describe what the feeling is.