I am very outspoken because I just say whatever I feel and damn the consequences. That began a long time ago when I found out that being quiet and invisible didn't make people like me, agreeing with everything and doing whatever somebody asked didn't make them like me, and since I didn't much like them anyway, I decided to hell with it. I'll say what I want. It's actually easier that way because I don't have to stop and think.
So, I'm perfectly capable of telling somebody I have Aspergers, but why is it their business? If I'm in line in a store and somebody behind me is too close to me, I have every right to tell him to move back, if I can't step forward. He doesn't have to know that I have Aspergers to stop being rude. If I say "You need to step back a little please" and he says "Why?" I don't have to say "Because I have Aspergers and it's bothering me". It's completely sufficient to say "Because you are too close, it's bothering me, and it's rude".
I don't freak out in pressure situations anymore. If I'm pulled over I know what to do. License and insurance. Sign the ticket. No sudden moves. I roll down the window and say something like "Hey officer!" He greets me, we talk about the offense. I ask if he will please give me a warning if I promise not to do it again. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. He doesn't need to know that I was speeding because I have to go to the bathroom and I can only do that particular function in my own bathroom because I have Aspergers. It doesn't change the fact that I was 15 miles over the speed limit. If I was in labor, that would be a different story.
I know there are degrees of social impairment with Aspergers. There are also degrees of sensory issues and routine issues. Mine manifests itself more with routine and some sensory. It used to greatly hinder me socially. I didn't know I had any reason to be like I was other than just being "wierd and shy" so I kept forcing myself to do things differently until they became second nature to me. I had a desire to do that because I didn't like being left out. I have no desire whatsoever to change my routing and sensory issues. I accomodate them just fine. I can deal, albeit uncomfortably, when I'm in situations where I can't accomodate them, so I do and I know that I'll be back to my home, with my stuff before long, so I can bear it.
I imagine that people who do have more pronounced issues that are harder to deal with would need the card. Especially when put in very uncomfortable situations and unable to explain why it has to be stopped right then.
The only time I can imagine myself needing one is when I get extremely angry or overwhelmed or frustrated and cant handle it anymore and have a meltdown, which consists of yelling, throwing things, breaking things, and just screaming in frustration. Although sometimes I get so mad when something is unfair (not your garden variety unfair, but seriously unfair) and I tell somebody off bad enough to cause their ears to melt. "I have Aspergers and I have just had a meltdown. You caused it, a**hole" would be what I want my card to say. Although I'd really hate for my type of meltdown to give other Aspies a bad name, cause it really would.
Frances