Do people call you mean?

Post Reply New Topic

People call me mean some times because if someone gets hurt or is sad I dont show that I feel bad for them. Or sometimesI laugh when someone gets hurt andlots of people think Im mean. I dont mean to be mean I just am I guess.

I've been called an as*hole on quite a few occasions. Sometimes I have no idea what it was that I said or did, and sometimes I'm overly irritated or having a meltdown and lash out at people.

We can all be mean sometimes, but generally, no I have never been called mean before.

Yes, I have a tendency to say the wrong thing all the time.

I get called mean when I refuse to help someone cheat, or refuse to hug them at certain times. Other than that, not really.

Only people who call me mean now is my husband.

I get this a lot when I don't present the reaction people expect from me. I realize writing this that I've really internalized the message that I'm a "mean" person, and thinking about it now there's no reason people should think this is the case. I would give my last dollar to someone who I thought even remotely deserved it and am even more generous with my time. I might be a little clueless and I am impatient, but I'm a really nice and caring person.
The reasons people have these impressions might be because I always have a serious face. But I think the more likely reason is as I said above, people expect you to have this huge fake outpouring of whatever to match their huge fake overdramatized feelings. Just tell me what the situation is, what you want from me, and I'll see what I can do. All this beating around the bush is just wasting my time, confusing me and generally pissing me off and I can guarantee that this is not the way to get me to help you.

I've been called all sorts of things, however I haven't had many people call me mean/nasty before.

Used to. Not so much anymore. I have learned to stay quiet about the stranger truths.

My friend calls me an as*hole sometimes. We're all joking, making fun of each other then I apparantly say something that's mean and he gets upset. He says I know just what to say to make him upset. I thought we were joking around?

Not really been called mean but people have called me a twat and a dick etc lol.. People seem to forget that at the end of the day I've got AS, I've never intentionally been mean to nobody but it comes across that I'm being simply a dick.

I believe I have much more of a handle on it now from learning through experience what is appropriate socially, but friends used to say I was mean (or that I said mean things) and I would be completely shocked that what I had said was considered inappropriate.

I get called mean when I'm babysitting. But that's when I get serious when they are being stinkers. My parents encourage it.

Other than that no.

No, I'm not generally called mean. Most people think I'm nice. I try to be nice---I try to respect.

And now I shall be very honest.

My mother told me once that I hadn't been a very nice child. A long time after, when I asked her why she'd said it, she told me she couldn't remember. Now she's not around to ask anymore.

People have occasionally pointed out to me that I've said mean sounding things.

I've been accused of thinking that I'm better or smarter than everyone else. At first, I didn't understand why, but I think I do now.

On the other hand, a friend of mine said that she wondered if I were mean when she first knew me and heard me joke around, but others told her I was very nice. After that, she came to agree with them.

I think I'm mean, though. I don't wake up in the morning intending to be, but I think I'm not really a very nice person, nor have I ever been. I know what goes on inside my own head, and sometimes some of it leaks out like goo.

I have a longstanding desire to talk less when I'm with other people, but I routinely fail at it. My grandfather spoke little, and people respected him. Because I lack other qualities and abilities he had, I can't hope to command anything like the high regard in which people held him. But I could do less damage if I just learned to keep my mouth shut. A friend of mine once told me, years ago, that I irritate people. I have to admit that I even irritate myself.

Over time, I've come to feel a lot less judgmental towards others for the way I've been treated. I used to be much more resentful. I've since learned I get along with most people best if I don't get to know them too well or spend too much time with them. It's better for everybody.