Why are people treating me...weird?

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So, people like to avoid me on the bus and ONLY me. I don't know why, I'm guessing it's because I look or act like I have a mental illness or something. I speculated that it was a self-esteem thing, but I'm seriously not thinking any negative self-thoughts when I'm riding the bus and I scored rather highly on the self-esteem test. If I'm thinking of anything on the bus, I'm thinking of... "I can't wait to get off this bus.".

Also, yesterday, I was walking downtown into the bus plaza and I noticed security was looking at me pretty cautiously and then they emerged from their offices as if "to protect the area".

So far, the possibilities are...

1) I look aggressively dangerous like I'm going to kill someone
2) I look mentally ill
3) I have a really low self-esteem.

Coincidentally, on both occasions when I was targeted by security and actively avoided on the bus, I was wearing my awesome goretex military coat (Goretex is lovely when it comes to rain protection). It seems that the homeless wear military coats around my area, so maybe people think I look like a dangerous homeless person or something?

What do you guys think is most likely?

Must have been the coat.

I think number 2 -- http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... 20disabled

If you don't talk to yourself, or stim, or have bad hygeine, or stare, or say off the wall things to other people then it's probably just low self esteem making you think they are treating you wierd.

Frances

people always avoid me. I figure I must smell. Have you checked your deodorant?

I have these same problems and thoughts too - the seat next to me on the bus is the last to be taken and I always get picked for 'random' security checks at airports and badgered by security at stores when I try to return stuff. It's probably because I'm young and male coupled with my body language - these are situations where I am fairly anxious already. I also notice these things more than others, so I think it's way more noticeable than it is.

The military jacket probably doesn't help - if you were wearing a business suit, would people still give you funny looks? Probably not so much to be honest. Otherwise, try put a positive spin on it, eg. I'm not squished next to someone on the bus and I'm warm and dry in my coat.

Your possibilities are exaggerated, you're not crazy; your body language probably gives off an odd vibe and you take more notice of it than the average person, at least I do.

I had the most problems in my life socially when I wore lots of military clothes. Now I try to wear military clothes the least amount possible, or if I do wear military stuff, I "clash" it with like, let's say I'm wearing camo pants, I'll wear a red Aeropostale tshirt too. Makes you look sorta kinda more normal.

swbluto, sometimes I scare the crap out of people on the street...I believe this is largely due to my "neutral" face looking like an "I am going to kill you" face, and my "concentrating" face (like when I'm riding bicycle) looks like an "I am really going to enjoy killing you" face. Add to this that I am wearing tattered, handmade, militaristic styled black and olive drab clothing, a batman toolbelt, and usually have a massive bike chain slung over my shoulder. Add to this that when walking, I tend to have tics (mini stims) in my hands, arms, shoulders and neck.

The yuppies are terrified of me, and the street folk and home bums all say hi and are super nice but never ask me for money. Which is great, because I don't have any.

So if you unwillingly display evil-face and wear camo, people are going to avoid you.

besides, in your profile pic, you look totally ready to pounce. :p

Have you tried wearing yellow and purple and thinking happy thoughts?

I vote that it's the jacket.

I used to have a black leather jacket (a tame one (it would probably be afraid of burnbridge's jacket)) and people would noticeably act nervous, and I'd always get asked for my ID when writing checks and such. I also noticed the same effect from facial hair.