Do you have an active love life?

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I was just wondering.
a lot of nt's are attracted to me because I am attractive And I have dedicated a lot of my time to learning social skills but I am never myself with them, I have boyfriends but I like to keep an emotional distance from them I don't tell them my home phone number or where I live most of the time. I ideally like to see them like once a week or sometimes less mostly for sex and a bit of company to stop me from feeling lonely.
I like to be myself with people I trust I want to meet someone understanding and fun who I can explain things to and they will understand who wont think I'm weird for my stimming or ranting.
I find relationships draining a lot of the time because I'm putting on an act and it's exhausting!
is this a common thing with aspergers or is it just me?

Both. At the wrong times.

You need to make a category for "N/A."

Sorry I didn't think about it, can you change the poll when It's already been made? I'm new

Yes I do and I'm both clingy & distant.

I picked clingy, but in truth I am both. And yes, I have an active love life.

I have an active love life. I love my cat (but not in a sexual way, mind you.)

I have completely withdrawn from engaging in human romantic affairs, and am much happier for it.

Even when I was active, I found that I need a lot of "me" time, and I learned that this was something I needed to establish in advance of forming a relationship with a partner. Very simple: "I don't want to hang out more than once or twice a week, and I won't ever want to live with you if we are dating." I couldn't handle an emotionally dependent partner.

Both. The problem is that there's no in between. I either piss my partner off by being too distant, thus causing them to leave me, or scare them off by being too needy, thus causing them to leave me.

I'm still in the lull.

Im often too clingy, I'm too much for guys. I have too much emotional baggage but I'm trying to find ways to handle that emotionalness before I start dating again. No I don't have an active love life.

I think both at different times is a more accurate answer, but I chose distant because I think it applies for a majority of the time. I have to have alone time, I have to have physical space to myself, I cant stand when animals and kids are climbing all over my body when Im laying on the couch even though it is out of love that they do that, I cant constantly talk on the phone or be around someone and keep a conversation going because it is too draining to be out of my head that much.

I don't think you can. Oh well.

But yeah, if I were doing what you were doing, I'd be distant too. Me, I choose lonliness over having a partner I can't be myself around. It seems fairly likely I'll be lonely for a long while.

When I was in a relationship, I was kind of distant. Never really talked to the guy when we were with each other.

Then again, I am a teenager.

No, nada, nil, non-existent, negative. Not really, want to be active a little bit out of curiosity.

I don't know the answer. I have never been in a relationship before.