Does your family give you mixed messages?

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My parents and little sisters were gone Thurs. afternoon-Fri. afternoon. I spent most of this time playing Zelda: Skyward Sword. When Dad got home he was all mad. OMG! she didn't clean the house!! ! All she cares about is her videogame!! etc. To hear me put down for the 1,000th time is depressing. Especially since I was now in a bad mood I decided to go to bed early. Dad then said "Did you beat Zelda?" "Are you stuck?" UH! Earlier in the day you were mad and complaining all I do is play my videogame! WTF! I've heard this before it's just so draining.

In one breath it's OMG! all she does is play videogames! In another it's "How was your new game?" They KNOW I play videogames and enjoy them! SURE I could do more around the house I agree with that issue but IMO don't go putting down my game playing one minute then being nice about it later! It's stupid! and wrong!! !! (and yes instead of going to bed I thought I'd post this on WP) Thanks!

I mainly only get the "stop playing and get to work, you lazy bum" end of it, but I may get inquired on my progress, as winning means "now you're finished, no excuses, get to work. "

Heh, I'm not getting SS until Christmas. I want it so bad.

I get my parents telling me how stupid I am to have problems with public transport one minute; then some time later saying how proud they are of me for using a different bus or something. It's very confusing.

How does not wanting you to play a game all day mean a lack of interest in whether you beat it?

As much as it pains me to say it, yes they do, particularly my mom (who, I must point out, I love very dearly and am very close to). My mom tells me that now that I'm an adult, I should do whatever I want to and that she doesn't want to hinder any goals I might have. She even periodically asks me out of the blue if I feel like she's getting in the way of my goals. But whenever I tell her that I want to get a job, she says that I can't either because I'm on Social Security, or because I wouldn't be able to handle having a job emotionally. And whenever I say that I want to live independently (or at least in an assisted living facility), she becomes very upset because she doesn't want me to leave. She also gets very defensive towards other family members or friends who suggest that I take steps to become more independent. She'll flat-out admit that she's way too overprotective, but she doesn't care.

On a similar note, when I first came out as bisexual and told my mom that I felt androgynous rather than 100% female, she was very understanding. She told me that lots of celebrities, such as Angelina Jolie, are bi. She even told me that she didn't feel 100% female either, that she just feels like a "person" rather than feminine or masculine. But over the years it seems that she has changed her mind, because she reacts with disgust whenever there are references to lesbianism on TV. And one time at a thrift store, I wanted to buy a shirt because of the design on it, but my mom made me put it back because it was "a man's shirt" and she "[didn't] want [me] wearing men's clothes."

Yeah, it's very confusing...my mom tells me I don't do enough around the house, so I go and hoover upstairs or whatever. Then, when I finish whatever job I was doing, I go to do something else (like clear junk out the garage) and my mom tells me I've done enough so to just play a video game or something.

Then the next night she'll say we won't do any chores (and tells me not to if I go to do some)...then is angry with me the next night, saying I don't do enough again. =/

Glad I'm not alone with this issue. Thanks!

I get so many mixed messages from my parents that, when I was little, I honestly thought I had two sets of parents who took turns

I used to love Zelda and the Phantom Hour Glass on the DS! Zelda is a cool game!

People always confuse me, they are always giving out mixed signals.

Yes, my mother does. My dad, no.


I am planning on getting my husband that new Zelda game. I don't know if I should get that Ocerina of Time game too. I already have it on N64 but I think it be easier to play on the 3DS than having to go through the hassle to hook up the N64. Is there any extra features or more quests or levels or hearts on Ocerina of Time?