Does anyone else not 'get' why most people like kids so much

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I mean, I have three siblings who are under 13, one of them is 8, and I love them, but honestly, I'm kind of looking forward to them growing up. They don't really annoy me at all, they're great kids, but I can't wait until I can really talk to them like an adult. You can only really 'do' stuff with kids and I find playing games with other people boring compared to talking to them.

Kids just kind of make me uncomfortable. For one thing people are so overprotective of them, it makes me nervous. I feel a bit like I'm cornering a mother bear when I'm in a crowd and a kid is nearby.

Another thing is I don't find their broken language cute, it actually just kind of annoys me. I know it's not their fault, and I'd never give a kid a hard time for it, but it does kind of bother me when I can't understand what they're saying. And they can say something really dumb, like "you farted" or something, and people will act like it's the cutest, most brilliant comedic statement ever.

Also I don't find humans in general very cute; even the little ones. I find most mammals to be a lot cuter. And kids aren't really innocent or sweet - I mean, you remember elementary school, right? It's just that if they are jerks they have the excuse of being young and capable of change.

I also don't really get why people get so upset when something bad happens to a kid, but in comparison don't care as much if it happens to an adult. It actually kind of pisses me off. It's just like racism to me. Ageism. The excuse for this sentiment is that kids haven't done anything really bad in their life and that they can't defend themselves, but you could say that about a lot of adult victims -- the real, deep seated biological reason is that children haven't reproduced yet and therefore it is genetically important for them to live long enough to spread their genes.

Am i just an as*hole? Or does anyone else feel the same way?

You're not an as*hole. I hate kids a lot. I don't find them at all sweet or endearing and I actually would not like to have them. They are too loud for my liking and annoy me when I am at work.

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I have HFA, ADHD, OCD & Tourette syndrome. I love animals, especially my bunnies and hamster. I skate in a roller derby team (but I'll try not to bite )

I don't want to have kids because I'm a compassionate and loving person, but I know that because of my AS related symptoms I might not be able to give them an environment that they can truly thrive and be happy in because I have an impaired ability to demonstrate love or compassion in a social setting which could devastate my potential offspring. The most loving thing I can do is not have kids so they are not exposed to that. LOL

I dislike kids so much I had myself sterilized, just to make certain I would not accidentally spawn a brood.

But then, a few years ago I found myself working with very young immigrant kids, and found that I really liked them. Their openness, innocence and wonder at life was a refreshing antidote to the cynicism that infects hip urbanites. I learned through them that I don't hate kids. I just hate spoiled, privileged kids (aka the Youth of America.) More specifically, I hate the media and parents who buy them cheap plastic crap and turn them into these greedy little monsters with a massive sense of entitlement.

Hmm. Maybe having offsprings can be tricky for someone with ASD, but I don't find it impossible or immoral in any sense.

Now, at 38, I find it easier to be around kids than, say, ten years ago. For many years I felt extremely awkward being around youngsters. It seems I'm getting better in this respect. Kids don't annoy me, unless they are screaming or crying. When that happens, I feel a strong urge to flee. On the positive side, kids are genuine, they are more themselves than adults. Also, I like their soft appearance so I guess I see them as being cute to an extent.

All in all, I believe with maturity people come to like or at least accept kids more. Also, there's absolutely no need to urge this (slow) process.

Children are mean and selfish jerks. They aren't sweet at all. However, that does not mean I'm against having children, I just wish they could skip a few stages.

Kids are fine. I'd just make a terrible parent, and I realize this. However, I don't like hearing screaming kids in public. I don't blame the kids or the parents for it though.

That's one thing I don't like about parents - they'll tell their screaming kid to knock it off, EVERYONE is looking at you.
First, that's likely to make the kid paranoid and self-conscious if they hear it often enough, and secondly....
I have other things to do than stare at you as you try to get your kid under control, and if I do, so do many others in the area.

I just treat kids like everyone else, just smaller versions that can be quite obnoxious at times.
Most kids are aware of the special treatment they get, and abuse special status.

I dislike almost all children. I like a few of my cousins kids and that's it. They smell funny, are loud and break stuff. They are always crying or screaming and their laugh is so high pitched it hurts my ears. Most of the stuff they do isn't cute, it's annoying. I don't want any of my own and would make a horrible parent.

I have two nieces (and two nephews that I hardly see) aged 1 and 4...or around there and they're really cute kids but I don't get what is so important when people expect me to spend every single waking moment with them and look at photos and look at something cute they do.

When my sister was bathing one of my nieces I just sat back and talked to her mother, then later I found out she was really hoping that I'd join in the bathing ritual. WTF? I don't want to bathe a child.
Another time my sister's mother (so my step mother) brought the little ones to my room and beside scaring the beejesus out of the eldest I didn't know what to do, just say hi a bunch of times and feel like an idiot. I don't mean to scare her; little children just fear me (I look like a 14 year old boy and am short so I don't get it) and even a dog my sister is taking care of is scared of me. Meanwhile, the cats love me and I can talk to them like how most people talk to children.

At least I can talk to my niece's 18 year old friends. I have a lot of nieces.

I actually wrote an article on this that is yet to be published. Maybe it was just too darn weird for even an autistic site (run by an NT/ mother of an autistic).

Last time I saw my nephew (4) he was drawing and I was trying to come up with a how-to-draw book in my head to bring up his skills. Then his dad played doctor games with him and I felt awkward.

My sister thinks I'd make a great mother. Ha! One I don't even want to date a boy (and not because I like girls - I just don't want to go through the trauma of dating again) and I don't want make a child as screwed up as me. And they cost a lot too. I can barely survive on my own as it is.

Yep, don't get it.

Some children are alright. Pretty much the same as some adults are alright. But it's definitely not a generic "Awwww ... a child ... how sweet ... must spend time with them". In fact, in most cases it's definitely the opposite.

I don't like all kids but I love certain kids. I defiantly don't hate them. They can be cruel and I never know when to tell them no.
My cousin has two that I love and are very good for my self -esteem because they love me. The problem is they love me too much and wont leave me alone when I need space,

I love my children more than life itself but I don't like children in general

I like children fine and get along with them okay. They seem to be drawn to me for some reason.

I actually did want to be a parent years ago (never had any children, though), but given my circumstances over the years, I think that would have been a disservice to any children I did have.