Enough I say!

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I've been lurking around these forums for a while now and there is a SERIOUS doom and gloom vibe, every other thread is just "woe is me" or "I can't look people in the eye and hold up a proper conversation" well y'know what? Neither can I! But that doesn't stop me from being weird, eccentric an liked.

What I'm saying is that even though most of us AS people are socially awkward around just about anyone but that doesn't mean we can't enjoy that does it? Instead of curling back into a little ball like all of us have done at some point be spontaneous! Make wild statements, if you think that wall looks damned cool then tell someone! See something colourful? Show it to someone, they'll find it fascinating! Life is way too boring for us so why not do something about it? I defy you gloomy effers to give me one reason not to be happy instead of all of this doom and gloom borcht! Sorry if this is a bit off grammar wise but I'm not exactly well...sober right now. But this had to be said.

I don't see doom and gloom, but maybe I'm looking in the wrong places. I mostly see people with questions and concerns about their habits/traits/thought processes seeking understanding and coping. I would think the truly upset/unhappy because wouldn't care enough to post in a forum - they would ball up in the corner and refuse to learn more about themselves.

In other words, I see a lot of hope and promise. But my glass is usually half-full, so I attribute my POV to any conversations I witness. Have to - text by itself tends to have no more emotion to it than what you give it.

Negativity is common with people on the spectrum (myself included), so it's hardly suprising that you see what you're seeing. Also bear in mind that it is mainly intended to be a support site, so people who are not feeling down about something may not even visit at all.

In any case, the random section of the forum is usually much more light-hearted...

All I'm seeing are people worrying that their quirks and habits are bad, that sucks! Especially if you're not even aware of the good side of AS. Too many people focus on the negatives here, ironically most people consider themselves to be outside of the rest of society which is complete borcht since focussing on the negatives is one of the most human things I can think of. I absolutely refuse to accept all these claims trying to justify being mopey, I know it's a cliché but you are as happy as you choose to be.

@tenpenpiece: I've been to the random board and nobody seems that happy, if this is a support site then where is the support? "oh, I have the same quirk as you, lets take solace in that we're not totally dissimilar and carry on being mopey" Not good enough! Support is supposed to make people feel happy and good about themselves and that's what I'm saying we should be doing.

I hear you. I'm okay with my traits no matter how odd they may be to some people. They're what make me an interesting person and why would I WANT to be normal? Normal is boring! But I'm now an adult who's no longer in school where they try hard to pressure you not to be yourself and force you into situations that make you anxious or feel stupid. Gym class, anyone?
However, it wasn't that long ago before my diagnosis when my life had hit rock bottom and was kicked out of the home I lived in and then left alone to die at the hospital...a week before Christmas.
I was diagnosed with Asperger's sometime after the New Year (I was around 25) and even after that I was in awful shape for what felt like eternity. The depression, the anxiety, the rage and meltdowns, the medications and their horrible, horrible side effects... but that's all in the past now, and I've really come a long way.

AHA! Finally someone who can look up, I'm only 17 but, for the most part, I know what you mean, I've been on meds before and that sucked so much, I've been knocked(literally, and with a piece of bloody wood) between schools and all I've learnt from that is we can't do anything but be happy.

Give this a try. It works, but it's going to take admitting your own negative attitude.

If you've got a positive attitude yourself, you'll be more in tune to positive energies that surround you. If you have a negative attitude, that is what you are more likely to see in others.

There is plenty of positivity on WP. If you tune in to the positive and look for it, you'll find it.

The fact is, AS causes difficulties. People come here to learn how to deal with them. You can't deal with a difficulty if you don't admit it exists, so people come here to admit it first, then seek help. I don't see anything negative about that, but that's because I choose to view it in a positive light.

If you don't like reading about people's problems, which is what most of us come here to discuss, there are millions of other forums you could spend your time on. Maybe you don't have a problem with AS. Fine. Most of us do, and that's why we're here. You really can't expect thousands of users to suddenly start denying they have problems they know they have just because some people don't want to hear about them.

You could either learn to tune into the positive here, by exercising your own positivity, and bypass the stuff that drags you down, or stop coming here. That is your own choice to make as much as it is the choice of others to look their own demons in the face and deal with them. Facing our demons is a very big part of why WP exists.

You're not going to change anything by insisting that everyone just "stop it." The reality of AS is not that simple.

Well now, I think you do have a right to feel however you want sweetleaf, feelings and sentiment are spread pretty thin amongst aspies, thing is do you really want to feel down? Is being depressed and angsty really so nice that you don't even want to be happy? So you were bullied? so what? You really want to dwell on that? I wouldn't, I did, I regret that and now I don't, that simple.