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25 Dec 2011, 4:38 pm

I don't know if I am ASD, but the word ret*d is something I hated, but at the same time is something I felt. Maybe I should do a poll, just wondering for those that didn't understand them self is that how they felt.

At times I have to say I felt everyone around me was ret*d, hope I am not offending any one just wondering if you every felt this way.


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25 Dec 2011, 5:36 pm

I hated being called it as a child. I probably would have also hated being called autistic if I was or ADD. I didn't even like being called deaf either. Then I felt like I was when I was older and started to think maybe the kids were right and I really am ret*d. So I used to say I was. Then I started to use it as a phrase when I started to hear it in school and was taught it was a figure of speech.



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25 Dec 2011, 6:39 pm

That's interesting. I think I always feared being thought of as dumb or ret*d, but I was always intellectually very bright. I remember wishing I was dumber in my teenage years, because the more average kids seemed to be a lot happier than I was. Of course, their happiness had nothing to do with their IQ (something I couldn't see).



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25 Dec 2011, 6:48 pm

I just hate it when people use "ret*d" as an insult. I mean, it's not something to be ashamed of. Or, it shouldn't be, anyhow; some particularly jerkass people seem to think it is.


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25 Dec 2011, 7:34 pm

Callista wrote:
I just hate it when people use "ret*d" as an insult. I mean, it's not something to be ashamed of. Or, it shouldn't be, anyhow; some particularly jerkass people seem to think it is.


^^^^^

I can't really say it any better.



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25 Dec 2011, 7:43 pm

I like it when people from Boston say it. :)



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25 Dec 2011, 8:37 pm

Callista wrote:
I just hate it when people use "ret*d" as an insult. I mean, it's not something to be ashamed of. Or, it shouldn't be, anyhow; some particularly jerkass people seem to think it is.


Shame is complicated, and for some reason it's not based entirely on things that our your fault or not, and non-physical disabilities are farther complicated as they are easier to blame as it being the persons fault.

This might not make perfect sense, its sort of illogical, but it has deep emotional connections to me. For me, I find nothing really to hurt me more than being calked ret*d. I guess I have a mental NEED for everyone to think I'm smart, especially myself, becuase if I'm smart than I have nothing in my mind's eye, and if I'm not smart than I'm ret*d, and for some reason there is nothing worse than being ret*d, no offense to anyone, it's just this is the emotional connection for me. If people think you are stupid you get know respect, you have no power, you are second class. I've always had to proof to myself that I am the best intellectually, one way or another. Some one tell me why I must think like this, it's not doing anyone anygood.


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26 Dec 2011, 12:48 am

Callista wrote:
I just hate it when people use "ret*d" as an insult. I mean, it's not something to be ashamed of. Or, it shouldn't be, anyhow; some particularly jerkass people seem to think it is.
The people who use the word "ret*d" as an insult need look no further than themselves. Simple as that.



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26 Dec 2011, 1:33 am

Callista wrote:
I just hate it when people use "ret*d" as an insult. I mean, it's not something to be ashamed of. Or, it shouldn't be, anyhow; some particularly jerkass people seem to think it is.



I wanted to be normal so of course anything that was a condition was an insult for me back in the days if I got called it or told what I had. Now it wouldn't bother me anymore if I got called ret*d because I take it as a compliment. It means they could tell I was different so they assumed I was ret*d. I don't think it makes someone a jerk if they don't like the fact they are ret*d, that goes for people with other disabilities too when they don't like having it. I got used to the word autistic now and autism being used on me and on AS.



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26 Dec 2011, 3:13 am

Ganondox wrote:
Callista wrote:
I just hate it when people use "ret*d" as an insult. I mean, it's not something to be ashamed of. Or, it shouldn't be, anyhow; some particularly jerkass people seem to think it is.


Shame is complicated, and for some reason it's not based entirely on things that our your fault or not, and non-physical disabilities are farther complicated as they are easier to blame as it being the persons fault.

This might not make perfect sense, its sort of illogical, but it has deep emotional connections to me.


It is perfectly logical in the sense it's a social status construct. Most people want to be respected and treated like a respectable human being, but this isn't the case if you're deemed 'inferior' by your peers one way or another. You could be inferior because you're "ret*d", "weird", "crazy", "ugly", etc. or something else. So, to be called ret*d is to essentially be labeled as a second-class citizen unworthy of respect, and it's perfectly logical that no one wants that.

I guess it seems illogical if you're "status"-blind, though...



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26 Dec 2011, 3:13 am

This reminds me of back when I went to school. I went on a different School bus then the other kids. One day there was a car behind us and the driver and his friend were pointing and laughing at us thinking that we were ret*d just because we were in a different school bus.

It made me mad that they could be so insensitive.



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26 Dec 2011, 4:54 am

People who use the word ret*d a lot as an insult are like those people in glass houses who throw stones.



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26 Dec 2011, 8:22 am

I have been called the R word countless number of times thought my life.... hate the word. :x



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26 Dec 2011, 10:03 am

Map12 wrote:
This reminds me of back when I went to school. I went on a different School bus then the other kids. One day there was a car behind us and the driver and his friend were pointing and laughing at us thinking that we were ret*d just because we were in a different school bus.

It made me mad that they could be so insensitive.


I've been called ret*d while ON the short bus by someone else ON the bus. I hated that bus with everything I had.


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26 Dec 2011, 10:06 am

blindJustice wrote:
Ganondox wrote:
Callista wrote:
I just hate it when people use "ret*d" as an insult. I mean, it's not something to be ashamed of. Or, it shouldn't be, anyhow; some particularly jerkass people seem to think it is.


Shame is complicated, and for some reason it's not based entirely on things that our your fault or not, and non-physical disabilities are farther complicated as they are easier to blame as it being the persons fault.

This might not make perfect sense, its sort of illogical, but it has deep emotional connections to me.


It is perfectly logical in the sense it's a social status construct. Most people want to be respected and treated like a respectable human being, but this isn't the case if you're deemed 'inferior' by your peers one way or another. You could be inferior because you're "ret*d", "weird", "crazy", "ugly", etc. or something else. So, to be called ret*d is to essentially be labeled as a second-class citizen unworthy of respect, and it's perfectly logical that no one wants that.

I guess it seems illogical if you're "status"-blind, though...


I guess I failed to explain the part that is really illogical, and I hate myself for it. For some reason everything for me boils down to two things, morality and intellectual superiority, what ever the funk that is, and for that I am a monster.


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26 Dec 2011, 10:35 am

I've also been called that word many times and I cringe when people use that word as a put down. You tend to hate the words that bullies have called you the most.


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