A really weird situation...

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For the last few weeks, I have been sitting at a lunch table with about nine or ten freshmen (I'm a senior, but I'm new). Anyway, a couple of days ago I walked over to the table right after I got my lunch and everyone was silent. I asked my friend, Jon, what was going on and he simply just said he was tired. I had seen him at his locker that morning, talked to him then, and he was just fine. Anyway, I told him that he had been fine that morning. Then Brenda, a girl at that table, got out of her seat, got right in my face, and rudely said, "You know what? That was rude. You do not just say 'you were fine this morning' when he is obviously upset." I don't understand. I had never had any problems with Brenda before and that table always had a lot of laughter and hype rather than silence and bad attitudes. Yesterday I avoided the table and sat at my acquaintence, Carlene's table, instead. Today, I sat at my friends' table again and everything went fine. In fact, it was probably the best lunch I had had this year. But when I was waiting for the bus when school let out, Jessica (one of Brenda's friends) said to me, "Brenda told me to tell you to never sit anywhere near us ever again." I asked her what she was talking about but she purposely walked off, leaving me in confusion and spite. I truely have no idea what's going on. Why is everyone acting all schizofrantic on me? What did I do? Help! I am so confused! What should I do?

This would be why I used to skip lunch when in high school.

They obviously don't understand your situation. Have you tried explaining about your AS?
This might help. If they are aware of you're situation, and how you may experience difficulties in these kind of social settings, then maybe they'll think twice next time they decide to ditch you. (If they already know about you're issues, I would advise you to maybe take a short break from them)

I hope you sort things out.

If possible, ask just what Jon was doing, what his face looked like (so that you can tell for next time) and just why he was upset. If things get really heated up in this conversation, I personally find that bringing up your AS just before all hell breaks loose is good timing. But I have no idea. Probably best to ignore my AS timing advice. Apart from that, that's the way you should go.

Could it be that the girl has a "crush" on John and thought she was defending him
against your "perceived" rudeness?The reason I say rudeness is that your comment about him being fine in the morning might emply to someone that you thought he was "faking" it now.Is is possible that you said some thing to him in the morning that hurt his feelings?

I think the only way to clear this up without getting dragged into the ussual "psyco drama" is to ask John if you said something that upset him.(Do it when this girl is not around because it sounds like she has her own agenda.....I have seen this happen...someone(perhaps this girl) will try and get the attention of another person by playing "protector" against some imaginary foe(you)...Try and get this straightened out with your friend and watch out for that girl,she sounds like a drama queen.