Upset by the silliest things; anyone else have this problem?

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There are a lot of strange things that upset me-- I've had this for as long as I can remember. I cannot stand it when I:
- see people holding their pens or cutlery the (in my opinion) wrong way;
- see people with one sleeve up and one sleeve down;
- hear people sucking their spit in through their teeth;
- see open cupboards/drawers;
- see people with one leg/foot on a chair/the couch and the other one on the floor;
- hear my mother laugh (she truly has a terrible laugh).

This list is much longer but this post's not really about the things on the list as much as it is about my reaction to them. Whenever I see someone with uneven sleeves (for example) I feel this rush of hatred/anger. It's like being punched in the stomach-- I can feel the adrenaline being released, I start grinding my teeth, clenching my fists and pushing my nails into my skin, sometimes I even growl. Why do these idiotic things set me off? I try not to show my anger to anyone because I find it so stupid; nobody knows I feel this way. I can get SO upset over these things and it bothers me so much. I can also snap at people when they ask dumb questions, I can feel the rage come up the same way as when I see anything on the list.

Does anyone have any experience with this? If you could help me deal with this I'd be forever grateful.

I have that problem too to some extent. There are certain little, silly things that just really really irk me or bother me a lot more than they should. I can totally relate to the open cupboards/drawers thing for example. That drives me nuts and I "have to" close them or else I won't be at peace and will get kind of mad about them being left open, although I try not to show that to anyone.

Another such thing is if someone touches my stuff or enters "my space". Even if I know they won't damage anything or cause any harm I just really hate the idea of them invading my space, using my stuff or messing up the order I've established with my things and I get really annoyed with them even though I know I shouldn't and I try not to show it because I know it's silly.

Yes. My list isn't identical to yours, but you've still got most of my pet peeves listed there. Most things that bug me are pretty OCD.

I can't function with people watching what I'm doing over my shoulder.

I also hate others touching my things, and entering my room. I feel so uneasy for no reasonable explanation.

I can't stand when stuff isn't organised either. I like things to be straight and tidy.

I have a lot of pet peeves too. Here are some off the top of my head:

- My sister saying "exspecially" instead of "especially"

- My brother putting "yeah" at the end of a question. For example: "We're going to the store today, yeah?" instead of "We're going to the store today, right?" I realize that this is something that British people say, but it inexplicably annoys me that my American brother is talking like that.

- My dad saying "You know what I mean?" I think it's the way he says it that grates on my nerves.

- People coming into my room when I'm in the middle of doing something on the computer. I always exit out of my browser whenever they come in, which leads them to think that I'm looking at stuff I shouldn't be. In actuality, I'm usually looking at something like TVTropes or My Little Pony but I'm too embarrassed to let anyone see.

- My parents trying to use technology. They know nothing about modern-day electronics, and seeing them trying to figure it out annoys me for some reason.

- Similar to the above, having to do Internet-related favors for my parents such as sending someone a message on Facebook for them or looking something up for them.

People calling their home bathrooms restrooms
People using words wrong
People bugging me when I am in the middle of something
People telling me how to do things when it doesn't even matter how it's done so I tell them they do it then and I leave it
People criticizing me about how I am playing a video game so I tell them they play it then. If they think they can do better than me, I give them the controller or tell them to shut up if they don't wanna play or they can play if they think they can do better than me.
People saying we are leaving and then they don't leave
"None of your own business"
"BS" depending on the context.
Cupboards and drawers left open.
People being anxious to get things done NOW and act like they are in a rush and it being urgent. (I realize this may upset anybody but I seem to get upset more and I get short tempered when my buttons get pushed while others can handle it better)
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People fidgeting/talking/getting up/rattling chip bags during a movie - that is the absolute worst and makes me feel homocidal.
Seriously. I might stab someone in the eye with a fork one of these days.
Also, people who use incorrect grammar- subject-verb agreement is of immense importance to me.
I'm hyperanalytical to the Nth degree- people being illogical or saying non-sensical things bothers me a lot, as well.

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Oh yes - I am definately bothered about the tiniest things. Here's a small list:-

-My mum or my auntie sneezing, because they do about 20 sneezes when they have a sneezing session
-The kitchen drawer opened very slightly, it's OK if it's wide open or shut on, but not just a tiny bit open. It seems to annoy me and I end up angrily slamming it shut to get the tension of irritation off of me
-A cold drought coming from an open door (I think this annoys most people though)
-People yawning loudly
-People saying ''Christmas pud'' instead of ''Christmas pudding'', or saying ''op'' instead of ''operation''
-People mentioning the rules of conformity, like ''oh I think I look funny doing that''
-People saying ''you're like a 2-year-old'' or ''stop acting like a little kid''
-The TV being on in the day (between 9:30am to 5:00pm)
-My mum talking about her childhood with her sisters
-My dad laying across the sofa (that annoys my mum aswell)
-People turning the volume on the TV right up when I talk
-Getting in people's way in shops
-People saying ''ssshh'' to me, or putting their finger to their lips to non-verbally tell me to shush
-Somebody having a tag sticking out of their clothes
-My auntie having a boyfriend (God knows why I seem to get jealous of my auntie and no-one else)
-Worrying that my hairstyle makes me look unnattractive, yet being too unenthusiastic to change it
-People wanting to watch something on the TV just when I talk
-Having my brother being in the same room as me
-Hearing noises in the kitchen when I'm in my room on the computer

And I have to do something about it. I can't just happily sit and ignore it, like perhaps most other people often can if something that silly bothers them. I have to let the whole world know I'm annoyed (not literally, but you know what I mean).

The trouble is, is causes people to tread on eggshells around me, and I don't like making people feel uncomfortable like that around me either, but it can't seem to be helped.

A lot of little things bother me that don't seem to bother other people.

I'm having trouble thinking of specific examples though. I can remember many times getting upset over something someone was doing or about something being "wrong".

I'll add several examples as I remember them.

People clicking their nails or flicking a lighter.
Plugs that hang partway out of an outlet.
People humming or singing.

For me it can be absolutely anything at all that is not how it is 95% of the time.

A spoon the wrong way up in a drawer, a piece of furniture moved, the lights not at the same level as they usually are at that time of day....... Massive problems for me when something doesn't feel "right". I even notice these kind of things at my therapist and need things to be put "right" before I can concentrate on talking.

I often find myself being upset that Christmas Day is over. This happens some years more than others. Everybody in my family seems to be in a rush to say goodbye to Christmas except for me. I guess that they're not the fat, jolly types.

I can enjoy the season to the fullest for as long as I wish after I get home, tomorrow. I have to look up a certain date so that I pack my stuff the night before.