Have you gotten used to verbal abuse?

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There was an incident the other day involving a family member and I didn't really think anything of it but someone else thought I should get upset with them for talking to me like that - referencing my OCD calling em a freak, ect). I'm not saying it doesn't bother me - but on the other hand I think most people actually behave like that they just don't want to admit it. So I don't take it as personally as other people might.

Sometimes it's better to have your inadequacies accepted and used in everyday conversation.

For example... I work as a Fireman on a couple of steam railways. My Driver is a bloke called Bill, who is a bit random. Bill is very enthusiastic and scatty and has no respect for social conventions (maybe he's an Aspie?). One of the railways we go to has a volunteer who is very obviously disabled, and his flailing body movements have earnt him the nickname "Windmill".

Most people treat Windmill with kid gloves. Bill, on the other hand, makes a point of insulting Windmill in every way he possibly can. Not to be offensive per se, but because Windmill loves an argument and the two of them will happily spend hours telling each other to f**k off. It's bloody funny and I think it helps Windmill feel accepted in an environment where mickey-taking is the norm. Plus he gets the chance to call Bill a soft f*****g Southern w*ker, which is an opportunity he seizes with great enthusiasm. The annual reunion is a sight to behold and often leaves me in tears of laughter. I'm not sure what they'd do without each other, to be honest.

There is also a collie dog who races the train every morning. Bill barks at it.

I think my lack of knowing that I am supposed to be "insulted" has kept me out of a lot of fights.When other people talk about being teased or bullied,I cant really relate.I dont know if I was just deaf or indifferent to peoples insults but I dont remember being "picked on".I usually just felt ignored,which was fine with me most of the time.If people do say something about me being weird....I just think"duh".
Nothing like the obvious to leave me unimpressed.

i used to take alot of notice to verbal abuse and recived it alot because of the way that i act and how i hold myself and stuff at school i used to retaliate back to it alot and get into trouble

i still get verbal abuse especialy cos of my love for America... some times i like to wear clothes with the stars and stripes on in england and wear the flag aswell... and people her dont like it... bit i wear them because I LIKE TO DO IT. why should i not do what i want just because some dumb kids want to call me names for it... let them! i dont care!

I'm just kind of checking to see if I was being unusually complacent or something. Like Krex said - pointing out the obvious is not really impressive. I tend to think that if a person gets angry than they will choose whatever is most convenient - if it wasn't my need for sameness than it would be something else. I guess the reaction to the fact that I didn't get upset is what I found more interesting (lol).