gyaspie wrote:
i find myself very shallow in views. i am the type that "judge the book by its cover". When a person yells, i will immediately think that the person is bad and if a person helps someone, i will immediately think that the person must be a good person. If i see that the exterior of a house is painted nicely, i would immediately think that the interior must be very nice too. I tend to make conclusions very easily. Is this common of aspies? are aspies shallow or deep? are most neurotypical people shallow or deep?
What you described is just elementary understandings of how things work. I used to be like this too, and I wasn't shallow as much as I was going by what I saw. I couldn't read body language or anything, so I assumed that if someone yelled, they were bad. On one hand I was taught that people have different sides to them, but on the other hand I was brought up to absolutist thinking, as in someone is either good or they're bad. So naturally since anger falls in the bad category, people that yell were bad as far as I was concerned. I remember I told my best friend in elementary school we couldn't be friends because he did something that I recently learned was bad. I guess it didn't help that my parents saw everything as black or white, or it seemed to an 8 year old Aspie they did.